If we are in the mood to meet someone to have in our lives. What stops us?

I've come across many women and men making it difficult to even talk, if they get to know each other initially in a conversation. Then yes, if both agree, appear on video to check if they are real or not. I would like to meet a woman willing to at least talk, and then slowly get to know each other. Discovering each other, what we have in common, etc.