difficult to find match

Hello, I'm Robert and 40 years old. I'm from the Netherlands. After a few days here on the site I still have not much or n contact with woman here. I would like to find a sweet woman and have the posibility to build a longterm relationhip with her. After some winks (I am little shy), some letters, I still have no nice matches. Even with the help of the 'match game' and so on. What do I do wrong?? Robert