Hello there, I would like to hear anyone's advice about a subject.
Lately I've been chatting with men with weird behavior. After a few neutral messages like "how was your day", "how's the political situation in Ukraine?", "How's the weather?" etc they write that they'll be getting a ticket to meet me in less than a month (one said that he will come in 5 days for tourism and to see me) and i find that very weird. All we found out about each other is our hobbies, what we are doing for living, and nothing really more.
I ask - aren't people suppossed to find out more things about each other before deciding to meet?
I mean we are from different countries and have different views on things.
When i tried to ask things like
Do you want your wife to be housewife or working? - the answer is "let's talk about this when we meet".
But excuse me, people want different things. For example a lot of muslim men want only a housewife, when a lot of women want to feel independant. Or what if i'm a hunter for a "rich hubby" but he wants her woman to work too?
Isn't that an important issue to discuss?
Or what if the man wants to make kids and woman doesn't or can't have? (or the other way around)?
I ask that, and I see a weird answer that such things should be discussed after meeting.
After meeting it might turn out we are different people, and then one of us or both think - "why i wasted time (or money for tickets and hotels) to visit ?
That makes me think that those men might be strange or hiding something.
Or is it normal? Am I too open and it is suppossed to be that way? Is it normal to talk only about weather before meeting?
Or is this a fear to trust? But if there is such a fear, maybe that person will always act this way?
I've created such topic because lately most men here act this way.
And after getting a message like this to a simple question
"we can speak about everything face to face in real meeting or skype.
First has to be real meeting, i don't expect anything just that you know me and i know you better."
And even in skype the talking is only about "how was your day" and "is your son sleeping? good." and nothing personal.
What is wrong with men? or me?
Hello there, I would like to hear anyone's advice about a subject.
<br>Lately I've been chatting with men with weird behavior. After a few neutral messages like "how was your day", "how's the political situation in Ukraine?", "How's the weather?" etc they write that they'll be getting a ticket to meet me in less than a month (one said that he will come in 5 days for tourism and to see me) and i find that very weird. All we found out about each other is our hobbies, what we are doing for living, and nothing really more.
<br>I ask - aren't people suppossed to find out more things about each other before deciding to meet?
<br>I mean we are from different countries and have different views on things.
<br>When i tried to ask things like
<br>Do you want your wife to be housewife or working? - the answer is "let's talk about this when we meet".
<br>But excuse me, people want different things. For example a lot of muslim men want only a housewife, when a lot of women want to feel independant. Or what if i'm a hunter for a "rich hubby" but he wants her woman to work too?
<br>Isn't that an important issue to discuss?
<br>Or what if the man wants to make kids and woman doesn't or can't have? (or the other way around)?
<br>I ask that, and I see a weird answer that such things should be discussed after meeting.
<br><br>After meeting it might turn out we are different people, and then one of us or both think - "why i wasted time (or money for tickets and hotels) to visit ?
<br>That makes me think that those men might be strange or hiding something.
<br>Or is it normal? Am I too open and it is suppossed to be that way? Is it normal to talk only about weather before meeting?
<br>Or is this a fear to trust? But if there is such a fear, maybe that person will always act this way?
<br>I've created such topic because lately most men here act this way.
<br><br><br><br>And after getting a message like this to a simple question
<br>"we can speak about everything face to face in real meeting or skype.
<br>First has to be real meeting, i don't expect anything just that you know me and i know you better."
<br>And even in skype the talking is only about "how was your day" and "is your son sleeping? good." and nothing personal.
<br>What is wrong with men? or me?
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