First Date - What a man and woman should discuss - right away
On a first conversation, or a first date, a man and a woman generally do not discuss ***anything*** important - they do not get answers to ***any*** of their most important questions. Thus, they learn nothing important about each other. We are adults now, not teenagers. On a first date, we should share our most important "must haves". If these "must haves" are discussed, we can know in one meeting, or one conversation, if there is ***any chance*** that we will be a match. Men are afraid to discuss "must haves" and especially sexual preferences. Women rarely invite this discussion, because most women are too insecure, too afraid, and too worried about their appearance of their first impression. A confident woman is able to discuss her sexual preferences. In summary, the most important topics between a man and a woman should be discussed in the "very first serious conversation, or the very first date". If there is compatibility with the "must haves", then there is plenty of time to flirt, and chat, and spend time together. Especially if a man is traveling half-around the world to meet you... please be honest and up-front about your "daily routine" and your "must haves" and your sexual "I like to do these acts / I do not like to do these other acts". I have "put my money, where my mouth is...". I have listed my basic "must haves" on my profile, including what type of sexual behavior that I "must have". For me, it is simple... I like a lot of foreplay and to share/receive oral sex. I will never perform anal sex, it is repulsive to me. I like a woman to wear tasteful lingerie, so I can gently take it off of her. A few sex toys, oils, and massages are great foreplay. I will not participate in any fetish or bondage or other deviant sexual conduct. If a woman says, "no", then I respect that. I am not offended. If a woman says, "yes", then I will satisfy her, because it is my sworn duty as a virile man. Do you see? It is easy to discuss. We are adults.
My idea of the "Top 10" for a great first conversation over the phone:
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1. Let's avoid small talk - Instead, let's simply introduce ourselves.
2. Let's share our practical goals and desires of our daily routines.
3. Let's identify the "must haves", right away.
4. Let's disclose our sexual preferences, and don't be shy, we're adults.
5. Let's discuss where we will live.
6. Let's touch on our parenting styles.
7. Let's say your first name with my last name.
8. Let's plan for our first meeting.
9. Let's establish a mutual trust.
10. Let's give each other a genuine opportunity to match, and not make a hasty decision, just because we are nervous to meet or chat the first time.
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