Children from the first marriage and new relationships

The subject for me is very serious. Fathers and children from the past marriage. How do you build a new relationship? Do you take a date with your adult children? Do you take into account their desires in the first place or the desires of your halves? For example, your woman wants to go somewhere, you consult with your child, whether he wants to go there or not? Whose wishes do you take into account first of all? And how do you think it is normal to take an adult child to each meeting starting from day one? The subject for me is very serious. Fathers and children from the past marriage. How do you build a new relationship? Do you take a date with your adult children? Do you take into account their desires in the first place or the desires of your halves? For example, your woman wants to go somewhere, you consult with your child, whether he wants to go there or not? Whose wishes do you take into account first of all? And how do you think it is normal to take an adult child to each meeting starting from day one? Waiting for answers from everyone.