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Ray

Maximum Age Gap

Any advice on maximum age gap between a man and a woman? Some say age is just a number, but I think there should be certain considerations. For example, as a man, if I married a younger woman I would be concerned about dying and leaving her to live left alone. What are your thoughts? Any other considerations? Thanks.

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Ben

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Your story has nothing to do with any age gap, but only with your personal experience. It seems as if you wrote that post only to unload your story


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Ben

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Sveta, you've nailed it! Once again vπŸ˜‰


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Ben

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Is this dilusion or something? If you look better NOW, then why do you put an aging fosile photo as your AVATAR?? Do you want pity and sympathy from a younger girl or do you want respect and partnership in a relationship?

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Tamara, 64 y.o.

Georgia

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No one can gave exact advice about such sensitive subjekt, sometimes in couple who is older dying later, than young, but by statistik woman live longer than man, in my case my husband been 10 years older, I was 19 he 39 when we marryed, at 49 he he dyed, almost 20 years without him, it was not easy to raise kids alone, better not be too older of partner. Best wishes


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Irina

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И Π² Π½Π΅ΠΌ Ρ‚ΠΎΠΆΠ΅. Если ΠΆΠ΅Π½Ρ‰ΠΈΠ½Π΅ 36 ΠΏΡ€Π΅Π΄ΠΏΠΎΠ»ΠΎΠΆΠΈΠΌ ΠΌΡƒΠΆΡ‡ΠΈΠ½Π΅ 50 ΠΈ ΡΡ‚Π°Ρ€ΡˆΠ΅, Ρ‡Ρ‚ΠΎ ΠΎΠ±Ρ‰Π΅Π³ΠΎ ΠΌΠ΅ΠΆΠ΄Ρƒ Π½ΠΈΠΌΠΈ? Π Π°Π·Π½ΠΈΡ†Π° Π² ΠΌΠΈΡ€ΠΎΠ²ΠΎΠ·Π·Ρ€Π΅Π½ΠΈΠΈ, ΠΎΡ‚Π½ΠΎΡˆΠ΅Π½ΠΈΠΈ ΠΊ ΠΆΠΈΠ·Π½ΠΈ, дСтям, ΠΆΠ΅Π½Ρ‰ΠΈΠ½Π΅ хочСтся Ρ€Π΅Π±Π΅Π½ΠΊΠ° Π° ΠΌΡƒΠΆΡ‡ΠΈΠ½Π΅ ΡƒΠΆΠ΅ Π±Ρ‹Π²Π°Π΅Ρ‚ Π½Π΅ Π½Π°Π΄ΠΎ, ΠΌΠ°Π»ΠΎΠΏΠΎΠ΄Π²ΠΈΠΆΠ½Ρ‹ΠΉ ΠΎΠ±Ρ€Π°Π· ΠΆΠΈΠ·Π½ΠΈ, хочСтся послС 50 Π»Π΅Ρ‚ Ρ‚ΠΈΡ…ΠΎΠΉ Π³Π°Π²Π°Π½ΠΈ, Π½Π΅ всСм Π½ΠΎ ΠΌΠ½ΠΎΠ³ΠΈΠΌ, Π° ΠΆΠ΅Π½Ρ‰ΠΈΠ½Π΅ Ссли ΠΎΠ½Π° активная хочСтся Π½Π°ΡΠ»Π°ΠΆΠ΄Π°Ρ‚ΡŒΡΡ ΠΏΠΎΠ»Π½ΠΎΠΉ Тизнью, Π° Π½Π΅ ΠΊΠ°ΠΊ бабуля 80 Π»Π΅Ρ‚ ΡΠΈΠ΄Π΅Ρ‚ΡŒ ΠΏΠΈΡ€ΠΎΠΆΠΊΠΈ ΠΏΠ΅Ρ‡ΡŒ Π΄ΠΎΠΌΠ°, ΡƒΡ‚Ρ€ΠΈΡ€ΡƒΡŽ Π½ΠΎ Ρ‚Π°ΠΊΠΈΠ΅ случаи Π΅ΡΡ‚ΡŒ, Ρ‡Ρ‚ΠΎ люди с большой Ρ€Π°Π·Π½ΠΈΡ†Π΅ΠΉ ΠΏΠ»ΠΎΡ…ΠΎ сСбя Ρ‡ΡƒΠ²ΡΡ‚Π²ΡƒΡŽΡ‚, ΠΈ Π΅Ρ‰Π΅ ΠΆΠ΅Π½Ρ‰ΠΈΠ½Π° старССт быстрСС Ссли большая Ρ€Π°Π·Π½ΠΈΡ†Π°. Для мСня Π½ΠΎΡ€ΠΌΠ°Π»ΡŒΠ½Π°Ρ Ρ€Π°Π·Π½ΠΈΡ†Π° 5-10 Π»Π΅Ρ‚.


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Elena


Если Π²Ρ‹ Ρ…ΠΎΡ‚ΠΈΡ‚Π΅,Ρ‡Ρ‚ΠΎΠ±Ρ‹ вас любили,Ρ‚ΠΎ ΠΆΠ΅Π½ΠΈΡ‚Π΅ΡΡŒ Π½Π° ΠΆΠ΅Π½Ρ‰ΠΈΠ½Π΅ ΡΡ‚Π°Ρ€ΡˆΠ΅ вас))) Если Π²Ρ‹ Ρ…ΠΎΡ‚ΠΈΡ‚Π΅ "ΡΡ€ΠΊΡƒΡŽ"Тизнь,Ρ‚ΠΎ ΠΆΠ΅Π½ΠΈΡ‚Π΅ΡΡŒ Π½Π° молодСнькой)))

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Hermann, 55 y.o.

Germany

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May i ask, what is common between 36 y.o. russian (or non-russian)woman and 36 y.o. a) russian and b) western man: - books ? - drinks ? - exhibitions ? - films ? - flowers ? - food ? - hobbies ? - magazines ? - make up ? - opera ? - pets ? - profession ? - religion ? - shopping ? - sport ? - technics ? - theatre ?

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Zaur, 52 y.o.

United States

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Π£ этого Ρ‡Π΅Π»ΠΎΠ²Π΅ΠΊ Π½Π΅ всС Π² порядкС с Π³ΠΎΠ»ΠΎΠ²ΠΎΠΉ

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Zaur, 52 y.o.

United States

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Π’Ρ‹ Π²Ρ‹Π³Π»Π°Π΄ΠΈΡ‚Π΅ ΠΊΠ°ΠΊ ΠΌΠΈΠ½ΠΈΠΌΡƒΠΌ Π½Π° 55 Π»Π΅Ρ‚ , Ρ‚ΠΎΡ‚ Ρ„Π°ΠΊΡ‚ Ρ‡Ρ‚ΠΎ Π²Ρ‹ ΠΏΠΈΡˆΠ΅Ρ‚Π΅ Ρ‡Ρ‚ΠΎ Ρƒ вас ΠΎΡ‚Π½ΠΎΡˆΠ΅Π½ΠΈΡ с Ρ‚Π΅ΠΌ ΠΊΡ‚ΠΎ младшС Π½Π° 9 Π»Π΅Ρ‚ ΠΈ ΠΏΡ€ΠΈ этом Π²Ρ‹ Π½Π° сайтС знакомств Π³ΠΎΠ²ΠΎΡ€ΠΈΡ‚ ΠΎ ΠΌΠ½ΠΎΠ³ΠΎΠΌ.

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Zaur, 52 y.o.

United States

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18-20 year old girls who go visit 48 year old expect to get paid, they won’t pay for themselves. Lets be real.

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Tatyana, 49 y.o.

Ukraine

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Ооо Π° Π²ΠΎΡ‚ ΠΈ Π±Ρ‹Π²ΡˆΠΈΠ΅ соотСчСствСнники появились ΠΈ ΠΊΠΎΠ½Π΅Ρ‡Π½ΠΎ со своими "ΠΊΠΎΠΌΠΏΠ»ΠΈΠΌΠ΅Π½Ρ‚Π°ΠΌΠΈ πŸ˜‰πŸ˜

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Irina, 60 y.o.

France

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Π°Π³Π°. ОсобСнно ΠΏΠΎΡ€Π°Π΄ΠΎΠ²Π°Π»ΠΎ: "Π’Ρ‹ выглядитС Π½Π° 55!" Π‘ΠΎΡŽΡΡŒ Π—Π°ΡƒΡ€Ρƒ сСбя ΠΏΠΎΠΊΠ°Π·Π°Ρ‚ΡŒ, Π½Π°ΠΏΠΈΡˆΠ΅Ρ‚: "ВоспитывайтС,ΠΌΠ°ΠΌΠΎ, Π²Π½ΡƒΠΊΠΎΠ²!"


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Glyn


Good question! I am from New Zealand and now live in Australia. Back in my New Zealand days, I was proposed to by 21 year old woman when I was 38. 17 years difference. She was a very famous hit singer and I was her manager. I had tried to avoid her interest for some time, because of the age difference. She convinced me to accept her. We were married for eight years and had two children together. People envied the way that we loved each other. So there was no trouble at all with the age difference. However, people go through life changes as a normal aspect of life. My ex faced challenges that she could only overcome if she faced these challenges herself. Ironically, the main problem was that I was too reliable, too capable and too stable in the sense that I could solve any problem. Women become too reliant on their men and then dont learn how to resolve problems on their own. If a man is strong and dependable, then the woman doesn't have to ever face her own problems. So I learned that rather than this being an issue of age gap, it is an issue of self-reliance and resilience. People may develop their emotional maturity early or never develop emotional self regulation at all. Some people can be 60 and still completely stupid emotionally. Perhaps then we should learn to measure the emotional intelligence age of a person, rather than their body. Because this is the true age of a person, their capacity for behaving like an adult. Some people never grow up. Others grow up very early. I am 51 now and because I look younger and because of my approach to life, I often have interest from women between 25 to 35, much younger women. I have a personal rule never to take advantage of a woman, but to do the right thing for her. Even if a younger woman likes me, I may say no to her. Because the DADDY ISSUES she may have around seeking the stability of father, is not always healthy to resolve through being with a strong man. But we should not be quick to judge. 100% of people look for traits of their parents in their life partner! They do this subconsciously. So to a degree, I think the woman who knows what she wants and what makes her happy, she deserves to be with the man that she chooses. An older man has much to offer a younger woman. Whether you are 44 or 54 doesnt matter Ray, so long as you are a virtuous man who can genuinely care for the woman who puts her trust in you, then you deserve the woman who loves, no matter what her age is. But I would not suggest being with a woman younger than 25 more generally, because by then a woman knows who she is and what she wants. Women reach their peak at 40 and are the most beautiful in their forties. And if a woman has looked after herself, some of the most beautiful women I have seen are in their fifties. Those women know how to love. As to dying and leaving her behind, get life insurance and build a legacy you can leave her. Better still, teach her to be independent and self sufficient. Bring her into your business and teach her to run you empire. Women make great leaders. Like the woman in Proverbs 31.

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