Gentlemen's club
Felt like SHARING the conversation don't take it personally please
In 9 out of the 10 cases we identified the prime reason to be'Lack of depth in the relationship between the Husband & Wife' (for whatever reasons)
They are NOT ONE but are two forces operating in two different directions (inspite of good intentions).
Blame games, Egos & puerile expectations from each other (lack of maturity),
Spending huge energies & time on relatives & people from outside (than inside families)
Lack of creativity in creating good memories with their kids (& with each other),
Busyness in Money chases / IMAGE growth (Random usually).
or any else - e.g. greater love for Mobile phones & TVs when even at home.
We inferred that besides LUCK; the other primary FACTOR for huge family success & happiness between 30 & 60 yrs is - 'The Husband & The Wife NEED TO BE ONE'. When they are ONE - then two forces (instead of one) solve things together leading to a higher probability of a big bang.
Even MAINTENANCE MODE between the husband & wife is not real PROGRESS. It gets boring & mediocre usually.
'DEPTH' is the answer & the MAIN keyword. How creative you are to shed aside egos & create DEPTH?
Parenting is a heroic job. And the best gift that super heroes give to their kids is 'the gift of loving their mother/ father'
This is not a psycho-social study or any research but just a very strong gut check (w.r.t. Indian conditions). Felt like SHARING the conversation with you
True reasons.
We have a joke: after the marriage a husband wants his wife to be the same as she was before the marriage (nice, a pleasant partner without any complaints), while a wife wants her husband to change his character (to get rid of some bad habits and to use some good habils). But men stay the same, women change their character.
Sooo maybe women become irritated as their husbands don`t listen to them or men stay the same because their wives become not so nice)))so why to change something for the better if she isn`t nice any more? How to be pleasant and nice, if a man don`t listen at all???
For me the main reason - not depth, but when a person hears, understands, but don`t do the things right.
As an example: please, call me when you`ll arrive. As I would be worrying very much untill I know you are safe. - O.K. I understand and I`ll call you.
And no calls as the result.
Christos
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