Good day Chris) Despite the fact that this topic is for men, I will write again. My vision is to find someone for myself, but not to remake people. I would like to point out that some ladies may hold more traditional views and expect a man to behave in a way that demonstrates seriousness. In real life, the first approach to a man and acquaintance with him may mean that the lady is easily accessible. The traditionalist man also has a built-in model of behavior, he chooses and directs. And if a woman is in the lead, then she is his competitor and rival, but not an attractive object of acquaintance. In Russia, this model of behavior is very common. Thus, there is a habit/pattern of allowing a man to lead, so as not to encroach on his masculinity. It is not easy to break the habitual patterns of behavior in accordance with which they have lived for decades. As someone who has experience of marriage, I also want to note that the ability to negotiate with the help of discussion skills is wonderful. You will also have to do many, many different things. And it's wonderful when the person next to you does not arrange a "storm in a teacup". In many ways, it depends on how the roles are distributed in the couple, whether the expectations from the partner have been met. So, returning to Robert's problem about initiative in conversations, activity in communication, boring ladies, what causes misunderstanding in men? That the lady does not want to meet the desired expectations?