Good evening Eric .
"And, I personally, will not write or text a woman, that she is sexy, when we (she and me) are just in the proces of getting to know each other better." - I think that it is more correct and tactful. Otherwise, if from the first phrases man start a conversation with a woman about her sexuality, many of us may understand not correctly.
I think differently about different men. And first of all it depends on how they present themselves (it means a lot).