For those who want a word of explanation or doubt my sincere intentions. I myself started this marriage with the best intentions and love after going through a divorce very long ago, I lived for my work and that was it.... then I got to know a lady who died from the consequences from breast cancer, this was a beautiful loving relationship so couldn't this go back? that's how Tetiana seemed to me too... and the cards sent showed this! and feelings at the back of the heart.It soon became apparent that money had to be sent to pay for the wedding and to buy as much as possible here in my country (dress-shoes-gold rings-bag-bridal bouquet-order photographer-night is hotel suite .....) and no the age difference is barely 4 years. Ever since she lived here she was in constant contact with the daughter through Whatt-apps but I thought something like that was normal for them and didn't look further into it as her son lives with father and there is very little contact between them. Due to Covid the daughter could not come to the wedding and it was agreed that as soon as the borders are open the daughter and husband came to stay for a week which I certainly had nothing against, the few displeasures of tetania in that period that we could hardly leave since she did not want to be vaccinated and so few places were allowed in. that something was going on I only now realize because all night tetiana was awake and tossing and turning in the bed, in the morning she was the first one up for her toilet, then the daughter and son-in-law and finally myself, I was almost ready when I heard Tetania shout at the door "I'm going back home" to which my question "will you come back?" with a NO as answers I saw the very last thing from the garden. Making contact is no longer possible in any way and yes from questioning there is the possibility of unilaterally filing a divorce before a court with major financial consequences!!! I hope that I have clarified everything a bit and lessons are learned from it....that's all!