Остаётся надеяться лишь на одно,
Что он сам все поймёт и даст отпустить.

Но нелюбимому, проще сказать прощай.
Проще забыть и отпустить его тоже.
Вот только тогда, когда уже порвана нить,
И никто, никому, ничего, уж, не должен.

С уважением и благодарностью, Елена и Пол.

Хорошие мужчины существуют. Единственная причина, по которой целая куча женщин их не находит, это то, что хорошие мужчины не ходят в клубы. Они не ходят в бары, Они не ходят туда, где будет хаос. Хорошие люди остаются дома, где, как они знают, царит тишина и покой, потому что хорошие люди ценят свой покой. Хорошие мужчины также держат своих круглых друзей маленькими, потому что они могут отличить хорошего человека от плохого. Если они общаются с плохим человеком, то они нехороший человек. Теперь они? Хорошие мужчины ценят дружбу, которая у них есть, и они ценят то, во что я верю. Поэтому хорошие мужчины не собираются окружать себя плохими людьми, потому что это разрушит их часть. Они предпочли бы быть с небольшой группой друзей, которые имеют те же ценности, что и они, которые ценят мир. Многие хорошие мужчины также остаются дома со своими женами и детьми, потому что они ценят семьи. Многие хорошие люди также ходят в церковь, потому что они знают, что именно в этом заключаются их ценности, потому что они знают, что церковь — это то, что делает их хорошими людьми. Итак, если вы хотите знать, где находятся все хорошие мужчины, они держатся за себя, потому что ценят свой мир и покой.

If a person (not necessarily both people) gets distracted, stressed, depressed, or loses interest, respect, attraction, or love, he or she can hog all the power in the relationship and make the relationship imbalanced, unfair, and unhealthy.

This can, in turn, make the more invested and underprioritized person wonder about his or her place in the relationship and cause him or her to act on anxiety, fear, uncertainty, and anger.

Strong reactions from the neglected person then make the person with unresolved problems even more certain that he or she is unhappy and that the relationship demands that he or she puts in the time and effort he or she doesn’t have or want to put in.

In other words, the relationship smothers him or her, which is exactly the opposite of what he or she needs to self-prioritize and think positively about the relationship.

If a relationship used to be all sunshine and lollipops but it’s not anymore, this doesn’t mean that something’s wrong with the relationship. It just means that the couple has gone through the infatuation phase and that they’ve hit a point where they actually have to put the work in.

Before, they could operate on autopilot and be happy with little to no effort. But after they get to know each other, they need to communicate, express themselves properly, spend time together, ask questions, pay attention to each other’s problems and feelings, empathize, and much more.
This on its own is hard work because it’s what every relationship consists of and needs to survive. If people aren’t ready to invest in their partner, they shouldn’t be in a relationship. They should be figuring out what they want and don’t want so they can work on their problems.

Some people need to process their previous relationships, work on their attachment styles, and get rid of their fears whereas others must set some healthy relationship goals and priorities and develop a desire to be in a serious committed relationship.

Every relationship is different, but that doesn’t suggest that relationships are supposed to be a cakewalk.

How hard they are strictly depends on each individual’s

self-awareness
self-control
expressiveness
stress/problem management
and overall maturity
If you want your relationship to be easy or as easy as it can be, you shouldn’t point out your partner’s flaws and express discontent (at least not in criticizing ways). You should focus on things that need to improve within you because by doing so, you’ll mature and encourage your partner to do the same.
If you try to change your partner by condemning him or her, all you’ll do is hurt your partner and force him or her to defend himself or herself. Most people say hurtful things back because they feel judged and attacked.

Look, there’s nothing wrong with wanting your partner to grow as no one’s perfect. But the way to go about this is to make it your partner’s idea to grow. That’s the only way your partner will see that you accept him or her and want the best for the relationship.

Avoid saying things like why “can’t you, why do you always, I want you to…” and instead, say “why don’t we try, what do you think we should, how do you want to…”

The only way you’ll encourage self-development is by showing that you accept your partner as he or she is but that you’d like the relationship to benefit from some healthy changes.

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taking care of yourself after all you

deserve it it's natural to feel a little

down when someone you care about leaves

you but don't dwell on it for too long

there are plenty of other people in the

world who would love to be in your life

after a breakup it's normal to spend

some time dwelling on what went wrong

but eventually you'll need to move on

focus on the positive aspects of the

situation and remember that you're

better off without someone who doesn't

appreciate you soon enough you'll find

someone new to worry about feeling left

behind can result in depression anxiety

and low self-esteem if you find yourself

feeling this way it's important to seek

help this will assist you in exploring

the root of your feelings and help you

develop coping mechanisms don't be

afraid to reach out for help when

someone leaves us it can be hard to

understand why we might feel like we did

something wrong or that we weren't good

enough these feelings are normal but

it's important to remember that the

person who left isn't worth your worry

there are plenty of other people in the

world who would love to be in your life

don't waste your time worrying about

someone who doesn't want to be with you

instead focus on the people who do want

to be in your life and make the most of

those relationships why do we worry

about those that leave us we were worry

about those that leave us because we

think that we did something wrong we

think that if we had just been a little

better a little more perfect they would

have stayed but the truth is people

leave for all sorts of reasons and

usually it has nothing to do with us

it's normal to feel upset and even a

little panicked when someone you care

about walks away from you but there's no

need to dwell on what could have been or

what might happen next instead take this

time to focus on yourself and your own

happiness so next time someone leaves

you instead of worrying about what you

could have done differently focus on

what you can do now to improve your life

you'll be much happier in the long run

letting go and moving on it can be

really tough when someone that you care

about leaves you you may feel like you

will never be able to move on and that

your life will never be the same but it

is important to remember that life does

go on and that you will be able to find

happiness again give yourself time to

grieve it is important to allow yourself

to feel the pain and sadness that comes

with loss don't try to bottle up your

emotions or pretend like everything is

is okay when it's not allow yourself to

cry scream and do whatever you need to

do to release the pain lean on your

friends and family they will be there to

support you and help you through this

tough time let them help you by talking

to them about how you're feeling or by

doing things together that make you

happy also find a positive outlet for

your emotions whether it's writing in a

journal painting or going for walks in

nature find an activity that helps you

express yourself in a positive way this

can be a great way to release some of

the negative emotions you may be feeling

focus on the future it's important to

remember that life goes on and that you

will be able to find happiness again

don't dwell in the past in what could

have been instead focus on the present

and what you can do to make your future

bright seek professional help if you

need it if you find that you're

struggling to cope with your emotions

don't be afraid to seek professional

help a therapist can help you work

through your emotions and develop

healthy coping mechanisms moving on

after someone leaves you is never easy

but it is possible with time patience

and support from loved ones you will be

able to heal your broken heart and find

happiness again also give yourself time

it takes time to heal from A Loss don't

expect to be over it immediately allow

yourself the time you need to grieve and

heal give yourself time

reasons why people leave there are many

reasons why someone might leave you they

may have found someone new they may be

moving away or they may simply not be

interested in you anymore and still

others might leave because they are

simply not ready for a committed

relationship whatever the reason it's

important to remember that you are not

responsible for their decision to leave

and that you should not take it

personally if you are worried about

someone that has left you it is

important to remember that there is no

single reason why people leave

relationships it could be anything from

incompatibility to timing to simply not

being ready for a commitment if you are

worried about someone that has left you

try to remember that there could be any

number of reasons why they made that

decision there are plenty of other

people in the world who would be happy

to be in a relationship with you so

instead of dwelling on the person who

left you focus on finding someone who

will appreciate you for who you are

breaking up is never easy but remember

that it is usually for the best yes it

is for the best

how to stop worrying about someone that

left you it can be difficult to stop

worrying about someone that left you but

there are some things you can do to

manage your anxiety and move on first

try to understand why you are worried

what are you afraid of are you afraid of

being alone of being rejected of never

finding someone else once you identify

your fears you can start to work on

addressing them if you're afraid of

being alone try to focus on the positive

aspects of single life you have more

time for yourself you can pursue your

own interests and you don't have to

compromise with another person if you're

afraid of rejection remind yourself that

not everyone will like or love you but

that doesn't mean there's something

wrong with you and if you're worried

about never finding someone else remind

yourself that there are billions of

people in the world and that it's highly

unlikely that you'll never meet someone

else once you've identified your fears

and started working on addressing them

try to keep yourself busy fill your time

with activities that make you happy and

distracted from your worry spend time

with friends and family pursue a hobby

or volunteer for a cause you're

passionate about the more constructive

and positive things you have going on in

your life the less time and energy

you'll have to spend worrying about

someone that left you it's time to take

a step back and reassess the situation

this person is no longer in your life

for a reason so it's important to

respect their decision and move on stop

worrying about someone that left you I

know it can be difficult to accept that

someone is no longer in your life but

it's important to face the facts if

you're still dwelling on the past it

will be difficult to move on so don't

dwell on what could have been it's

natural to wonder what could have been

but dwelling on possibilities is only

going to make you more upset except that

things didn't work out and focus on the

present and like I said before take some

time for yourself now that this person

is out of your life it's important to

focus on taking care of yourself indulge

in activities that make you happy spend

time with people that make you feel good

and do whatever you need to do to feel

feel better also don't try to replace

them it's tempting to try and find

someone else to fill the void that this

person has left but it's important to

take some time for yourself before

jumping into another relationship you

need to figure out who you are and what

you want without this person so take

some time to grieve the loss of this

person then focus on taking care of

yourself when you're ready you can start

looking for someone new but they'll

force it the right person will come

along when you least expect it and also

don't compare yourself to this person

it's easy to look at someone that left

you and think that you're not good

enough but that's not true everyone is

different and everyone has different

preferences just because this person

didn't want to be with you doesn't mean

that there's something wrong with you so

stop worrying about someone that left

you take some time for yourself focus on

the present and don't compare yourself

to this person you're better off without

them

it can be tough when someone we care

about leaves us but it's important to

remember that they made their decision

for a reason if someone wants to be in

our lives they will make the effort to

stay worrying about someone who has left

only causes undue stress and pain so

it's best to let them go and focus on

the people who are still here if you're

struggling to cope with the loss of

someone it's important to seek help a

therapist can assist you in exploring

your emotions and developing healthy

coping mechanisms remember it's okay to

ask for help yes ask for help today

foreign

Finally in a few days ago, I put forward to break up, she did not say anything, also did not say the topic of retention, I put forward to break up in the morning, I regret in the afternoon, to apologize to her, send her flowers, of course, she refused to accept the flowers, I called the Courier to send the flowers at her door. I gave her a lot of information at that time, she did not answer, then I used WhatsApp.telgram to give her a video, she blocked me, and then I contacted her with wechat, she has not reply, but she has not block my wechat, I do not know what the reason is not to block my wechat? I tried the voice a few times, and she refused.

In the next few days, I tried to leave her a message, email. She never made to reply. I tried to use the Internet phone, and her phone was turned off, and then I called a friend in Russia to call her, and her phone was still turned off.

In fact, I just want her to say another word, if I give me another chance, I will come over again, if she already has a good man she likes, she can directly tell me, I can accept these, I will silently bless them, she has any financial difficulties, you can directly put forward to me, I will help her.

These days I have been thinking about my own problems, trying to find their own mistakes, if there are two people have any conflict I can avoid in time, but, all this will not go. She once said that she would go to Belarus with her English teacher in November to do plastic surgery, because the price of plastic surgery in Russia is very high, because I am a plastic surgeon, and I was trying to get a visa for her. If she can come to China, I can give her plastic surgery to make her young and beautiful. I also think of a way to apply for next year's study visa. She once asked Russian agents, they could not apply for a visa to China.

In the past two years, I have not had any contact with other women, and I have not betrayed her mentally and physically. I am a traditional man, and she said that she is also a traditional woman, and I have a lot in common with her.

PS: Writing here, I can only wish her to meet a good man to her in the future, and not to be cheated by other men in the future. I will continue to look for my next love affair......