Men & women
Back to big age differences
Some time ago, Helga posted the subject of couples with large age differences. At the time, I listened to the discussion with reservations. Many claim older men and younger women may mix for a while, but no long-term good can come from these matches; that is until a neighbor comes home with some striking young beauty half his age, who seems crazy in love and oblivious to age. When money is involved, this is dismissed as superficial and financially motivated, but that theory becomes problematic there is no money and the interest appears honest and genuine. Then what!?
Many western men have deluded themselves into believing Slavic women will marry the village idiot, regardless of age, just to have some sort of man and move to the west. I find that insulting. Perhaps that is why he is the village idiot! Here in the US, I have seen many beautiful Slavic girls who married far beneath themselves. Some were very happy; others developed a chronic eye-rolling condition.
Older men enjoy receiving attention from some entrancing young babe. I do not think young girls typically have a sincere desire to spend their lives with someone old enough to be their father; however, the other day I discovered a blog discussion on this very subject. Surprisingly, I read over 11 pages written by sincere people who had wonderful marriages with age differences of 25-30 years. Honestly, I was quite surprised. Successful relationships with wide age differences must be possible, but are they practical?
I must ask, if a man truly loves a young woman, can he embrace her knowing he may only be able to give her 20 or so good years, before becoming a burden on her? If true love wishes the best for the other, would he not exercise wisdom, make a difficult decision, cause her short term grief to spare her possible long-term regrets? Should he not love her more than his own desires, and do the best for her?
Older men who fall in love with younger women must consider much. Even if she is very open with her feelings, sometimes difficult for a man to believe he could actually be the object of her desire and love; however, these things are not impossible. All relationships have problems; all demand much work and self-sacrifice, regardless of differences. With large age gaps, perhaps it takes more to convince an older man that love is possible. Perhaps the less conventional the circumstances, maybe the harder to understand, but certainly any genuine love is good love. What do you ladies think?
PS: Often you women think we men are a bit “juvenile”; I can only smile, but I admit nothing! But I have talked here with women, much younger than me, and told them maybe she would think I am too young for her! ))))) (Next week we will discuss GLOBAL WARMING)
Very wise words and insight, dear Hope. I did not think of these things, but you are right!
Arina, please try to be positive. He can also walk out in the street in Texas and be run over by a herd of cattle! )))
Mila, men search here exactly because they are looking for a different mentality. After a few months of being here, easy to see American women cannot compare to Slavic girls (with the exception of my mother). Much higher believability level and sincerity. Of course there are superficial people everywhere, but if you have never visited the US, you have no idea of the differences. Also, you must consider men can be jerks anywhere (I hope jerk translates well), including from islands in Italy!
No one expects you girls to “fall in love with ANY image; love is not a crap shoot (gambling game). Fall in love with the person and only if he is worthy. Hold yourself to a standard and do not lower your requirements just because he wears pants and comes from a country with a McDonalds’s on every corner! Do not fall in love with love; there is great danger for a young woman to be misled and misused. Demand respect and insist he treat you like the princess you girls are.
Always let the buyer beware. As old as I am, from experience I can say, many things are far worse than not being married, and one of those is being married to the wrong one. If you find it difficult to be patient to wait for the right man, I will repost this video of what could you end up with if you don't!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YvxNgdFeWqM
Really Helga!? He got spanked because he was a bad boy! )))) I miss him like I miss being covered with ant bites!~ )))) Do you miss him!???
I prefer Tasha's story. Also, I never take the side of any man who does the wrong thing towards a woman, just because he is a man! Of course, that is just how I think!
Elena, every married woman should be jealous of your looks and good health! Every single woman too. When I look at Tasha's husband, married life does not seem to be hurting him at all!
Nadezhda
Doug, 57 лет
USA, Beaver Falls, PA. Эти истории сравнивать нельзя. Я тоже предпочитаю историю Таши)))
А на стороне молоденькой девочки я лишь по причине того, что взрослый мужчина в данной ситуации не любил ,а использовал ( покупал девушку). Так почему он удивляется, что она предпочла продаться за более высокую цену?
Lyudmila
Я думаю ,что мч не могут найти себе женщину у себя в стране,потому что ваши женщины сильнее и самостоятельнее вас,они независимы от вас во всех смыслах слова, а зачем женщине мч слабее чем она, вот вы и идёте на поиск славянских женщин, которые не избалованы жизнью, и будут счастливы от того минимума который вы сможете им дать.Я знаю блогера на ютюбе, прекрасная женщина,вышла замуж за американца,она любит его,благодарна ему за всё ,что он для неё делает и как может старается быть самостоятельной в чужой стране,а счастлива она от такого минимума(20 $ в неделю на карманные расходы),я думаю ни одна американка не смогла бы полюбить мч за такой минимум,она рада и счастлива от того,что узнаёт новую страну,ей не надо бороться за свою жизнь как в нашей стране,работая практически весь световой день,чтобы оплатить свою жизнь, и жизнь своих детей.Я это к тому говорю,что ваша мужская любовь тоже же меркантильна в каком-то смысле,вы ищете женщин на которых будете меньше тратиться,а получить взамен хотите много.
Lyudmila
Видео смешное, у нас в стране такое конечно не увидишь, каждый имеет то, что он заслуживает, эти люди сами сделали себя такими
Arina
Tatiana, did you change your profile picture AGAIN! You are confusing all the men on the site!!! And where did the kid go!?
Lyudmila
Похоже мы наверное все мечтаем о таком идеальном мужчине)))А как же повезёт тем кому мы достанемся))
Tatyana
Если бы Dug был бы на 10 лет старше меня, и жил бы ближе .., то тогда держись крепче Dug за стул))
А может быть Dug не идеальный мужчина .может быть он сильно храпит ночью))
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Людмил мы "не достанемся", скорее они нас "достанут"))
Victor
Felicidades y bien defendida tu postura. Ideas claras...
Lyudmila
тогда бы мы храпели хором(записали бы храп на диктофон),а утром бы Даг сделал бы обработку этого храпа с музыкой,это был бы шедевр)))
Lyudmila
Татьяна,а Даг вроде как для своего возраста очень даже ничего,может и не надо на 10 лет моложе)))
Tasha
Tatyana
Точно. Он создает музыку и помещает в новый пост под название "Back to big age differences " или "Музыка для тех кто не спит")
Vera
Ну и волну разогнал Dug! Весь форум в дрожжиках!
Похоже, Томассо забыт навсегда!
Sveta
Не спорьте с природой, девочка. Этот спор всегда закончится вашим поражением: чуть раньше или чуть позже.УВЫ!
Sveta
Почитайте отзывы ( ближе к началу) и форум - там же.
Please, Mila! You will frighten everyone away! And besides, who said I would give her $20 per week? Do you think I'm made of money!? I will probably need someone good with finances so that she can manage our financial affairs! Maybe she will give ME $20 per week...if I am lucky! (did you say $20 per week or $20 per month?)
Hope, 43, I am not understanding what you are writing...but it is okay, I'm sure you do not understand what I am writing either. I'm ready to punch the auto-translator in the nose! Can someone clear this up?
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