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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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why..

I have decided. I will not contact people who have only 1 photo in their profile, who have not added their personal information, who write no more than 1 Sentence, 1 message a day. there are quite a few fake accounts. as the days progressed, I think that this site was useless.

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Yelena, 40 y.o.

Ukraine

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Hello, Ridvan. We are sorry that you have such an idea about our website. We are doing our best to check the users before activation of their profiles and keep the profiles real. We have many wonderful women on the site and we hope that you will find the woman of your dreams soon. Please, pay attention that we have an option of verifying the profile via passport - if a user ordered this verification and passed it there is Passport Verification status in his/her profile.


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Ben


you can report ANY fake account any time to the admins and they will verify this.
I wonder what insight we should gain from reading your 100% negative post. I suppose you're more angry and upset with yourself than with this website...


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David


I think your review is a little harsh to say the least. Ive joined this site many times and have friends i met here on my facebook and viber. Admin do an amazing job getting rid of the fakes and ive often spoke with girls and next minute there account is under review before i could be targeted by any scammers! Ive spoke to girls who other people i know have also spoke to and both agreed them to be genuine ive seen dirty washing from both men and women in forum and know girls who met there husbands on here. Life has different emotions and people have different values but here you pay one subscription and get to meet people online with a view to meeting in real life. There are many quality women on here and some indifferent but most are genuine and here unlike some sites you dont need to pay per letter they dont employ scammers or charge fortunes for tours ive not found my wife here but ive had romance relationships and a couple of bunny boiler experiences all part of life but has a member on several occations i can vouch for the site being genuine with sincere values that have got many people together.. but like everything in life if something looks too good to be true it often is! Use your sense and judgement because admin do a great job but your also an adult and need to be self accountable also


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Svetlana


1 sentence, 1 message per day? It doesn't mean that person is fake. For example , when I worked before Christmas 12 hours per day I was so tired that can't visit site every day or if visited sent only one sentence or one short message. Very often it means that person is hard working

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Eric, 75 y.o.

Netherlands

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Hi Ridvan ,

Not really sure what you expect.Well , online dating can have it's issues.

When joining such a site it is best to not put your expectations too high ...

After all this is just a platform - and everyone can /may have a different opinion on how to interact or reply.

The same goes for the number of pictures in the profile -

If you want to have multiple messages per day - I know some sites that can fulfill your wishes ...

But do realize that they will charge you 1 credit for every letter send or RECEIVED ( a letter can contain just 1 word or 1 photo or just 1 letter )

Hey , that's funny - 1 letter in a letter - oohh boy , that would start you to boil over , since you have to pay for it ...

So take your pick ...

Of course , you will have to buy a number of credits in advance ...

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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I think your writing is ridiculous. I am laughing

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Irina, 45 y.o.

Belarus

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Это просто смешно, мне абсолютно до звезды. Но взрослый адекватный человек ноет здесь - по причине неполной информации , а сам заблокировал меня, только за то, что я поставила dislake))). Сайт потрясающий и модераторы работают на отлично, и жизнь на форуме кипит обсуждениями и советами. Имеющий уши да слышит, а обвинять безосновательно и не аргументировано всех, смешно ей-ей

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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yes i blocked it nonsense commenters, I will block ...

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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no, I'm quite cheerful... I'm not the source of my anger. my resentment is fake accounts on the site and women who think they can find suitable partners without revealing information about themselves..

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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I'm monogamous. I've never had several women at once in my life. on this site, I also dont correspond with many women. I don't want to spend time with a woman who writes a sentence a day.Life is short

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

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I'm looking for a wife who will miss your face and smile every day. I'm not looking for pen pals who write a sentence every day...


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David


Id also like to say allot of what is wrote here is based on assumptions. You dont know the amount of family involvement the woman has. Her work load. Her situation.. ive met women where the date has gone very well then afterwards i write them very little there response is i cannot understand you! How serious are you about me? You not write me lot... i have a mother. I have 2 boys i have work. If this means i care any less about them is totally nonsense all it means is im more stable than them. Ive also had relationship where i spoke maybe one message a day but when meeting total chemistry and other times when ive spoke several times a day by video chat the meetings wasted a year and we have been totally different people. Every human is different.

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Eric, 75 y.o.

Netherlands

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Hi ,

Well that was the idea ...

So , I suppose that you will stay on this site , yes .... !!!


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Ben

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The only advice I can give you is to be patient and understanding. I also find it awkward to send messages and receive no reply, BUT women (and men!) have multiple reasons to behave the way they do:

1) Pressure: their native language is NOT English. It's much easier to maintain 'small talk' (hi, hello, how are you) to a multitude of people than to get into deep(er) conversations. Most people come here to relax and seek easy conversations or even distraction.
If you confront them and start a conversation like this: "Hi there, I'm Ridvan, I'm looking for a wife. This is your lucky day, you seem like a suitable candidate. Let's meet and start a family. I want kids. How many do you want. We would have start soon, because my time is ticking away. Send me your measurements, so that I can start searching for a fitting wedding dress. Do you prefer gold or platinum rings. Write to me speedily, and convince me that you're serious too!" ... then your communication may end SOONER than it started.

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2) the level of shyness: you're faced with a rather bad choice: rely on the translating services of google, yandex, multitran or work with your own language abilities. You can rocketfire messages by the second, I'm sure, but think about it this way:
the recipient
- reads (and tries to understand)
- translates (and needs to look up words)
- writes a reply (feels unhappy with it)
- double checks / asks someone to proofread it
- replies
All these take TIME.
Do you seriously expect grown up, adult women to say to you - as a complete stranger: "hey dude, hang on a minute, I'm struggling with the language!" - If you expect THAT, then you must be kidding!

3) there ARE gold diggers, surely! Especially in times of crisis, these creatures fly by like vultures and seek out the 'most profitable' - but with common sense and communication, you find out very soon: they don't reply to your messages in the slightest, but write 'parallel stories' that are entirely devoid of context and have nothing to do with what you write.
Easy check: whenever a lady makes a direct reference to what you write and asks questions about YOU, it is a positive sign (or a clever scammer).
Last but not least, there is a language barrier, and no matter how proficient you are or become, there will always be a point when communication gets tricky, difficult or even exhausting. The book of life is in this way similar to a real book: as long as it is quality material, you'll always find these few pages that require thinking harder, pondering and consideration.
Again, quality conversations and communication take TIME, patience, good will and a great deal of energy from the one who does NOT use their native language, i.e. the women with whom you have chosen to interact.

I don't know how you behave with women on the website. Personally I (and this is ONLY my personal impression!) I find you rather pushy - if not to say aggressive.
Always remember: Relationships are like farts: when you press too hard, they become shit.  

So, good luck with your endeavours and leave the frustration behind - it's summertime  

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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I hope your advice helps you find the partner you're looking for.thanks


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Ben

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PS: you might take some of it into consideration, otherwise your dream of relocating to the UK might come to an abrupt end at the customs desk.  

Are you afraid women won't talk to you, if your profile says "Turkey"?  

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

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hahaha 😁 I'm sorry, I found your last comment very stupid. I have a work visa and I'm in England... I can travel without a visa.. .. you're out of luck with your preaching personality..

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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you're here looking for a Slavic partner because your advice doesn't work for you.... 

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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I don't think your German identity was enough to be the partner of even 40 million German women..  I'm not a Turk, I'm a Circassian. wrong guess  

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

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my visa has a very useful feature.. my wife can work in any job, whatever rights an British has, without any limitations....  ok.


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Ben

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48 and sits here moaning like a baby: "nobody likes, nobody writes me".

If you need any further proof WHY, then read your own messages: there's no better to insult you than your own words.  

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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you have a German identity, you arent Turkish, You applied the advice you wrote to me, so why couldn't you find a partner in Germany...it's because you're a little presumptuous.

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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😆😆😆 haha, you can't possibly partner with this standard German arrogance... I write as older than you.


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Chris

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To be fair, lots of people aren't here just because they can't find somebody local or because they are out of options. Myself, I find much more in common with Slavic women and therefore they are my first choice - not my last. Making that accusation reveals a lot.

Ben, having spent a semester in Istanbul, I don't think listing Turkey as a location is really a negative - there are lots of Slavic women in Turkey, happily married to Turks. I would guess that it's in the top 5 countries for Slavic women to marry. It's not polite (or necessarily correct) to speak down like that based on their country of origin or residence.

Among the time-wasters, there are some gems here that are very suitable, but honestly I think your chance of success is pretty low if you are gravitating towards the 25-34 crowd. Each person has their preferences, but I suggest being realistic with the age gap and perhaps your chances will improve. Many women want a partner, not another father. I hope you find your match.


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Ben

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I hope you manage to see the sarcasm in it. I was deliberately teasing him to see, how he would react, and HOW he swallowed that bait  

As a matter of fact, I have great respect for any culture, their peoples, nations and their ways of life. What I do NOT accept are ignorance, lofty haughtiness, a complete lack of self-reflection or insight. (just look at his "output" - he spends more time spamming here than with any woman   - he had better return to his playpen and pick up his baby rattle. No wonder nobody writes to him and he only garners negative feedback.


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Chris

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To add to my comment, I think you're right in a sense. Women with incomplete profiles and a single photo probably don't take this experience as seriously as women who have complete profiles. You will have to be very convincing to get such people interested, and that may already be impossible due to the age difference. There is no sense wasting time and repeating this mistake. Work smarter, not harder  

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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Three 25-year-old women texted me. I rejected them all.. I'm not looking for a relationship of mutual interest.. I'm looking for a woman I'll miss every day and be happy with everything I've done together. Slavs and Turks are very much alike. thousands of Slavic women live in Turkey.


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Chris

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I agree to that, too. Merely "settling" for someone you don't fully appreciate is not enough. It takes time for that feeling to develop - "love at first sight" is a myth! And sometimes this person will not be the one you expect, so you have to keep an open mind. Sometimes, communication failures can separate two people who are meant to be together, so you shouldn't put in half effort either if you have even the slightest interest. I had a communication breakdown with a person I later adored, but it was fixed because both of us were willing to put in effort for a stranger. I struggle with this too, but stay optimistic even if it feels like you're wasting your time, but be willing to step up when the time comes.


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David

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F**king jesus ive been trying to work!! (Cant for laughing) Ben you are on form today! Some of these exchanges make the death of the cockroach girl look like nothing! Youv just took this guys head off spat down his vocal cords and added some CV19 for good measure. Your replys to him are contructive well informed and brutally honest. He wishes you luck. Bens more english than you will ever be... the tantrum about people not writing to you was unreal. Your a sitting duck for scammers... Qoute” I'm looking for a wife who will miss your face and smile every day. I'm not looking for pen pals who write a sentence every day” this has premature ejaculation wrote all over it.. maybe this will get you to the clothes shops, the gold shop and suck all the liquidity out your bank but its not going to get you real emotions... you get these feelings out of trust respect and bonding over time! Please dont advise someone whos russian is better than your english and understanding of slavic sociology and langugue is in the top 1% (Ben has this to his advantage hence dont need your patronising words im sure) ive a superb financial education bens a superb academic education. This is a debate you cant win! You need to take on board advise if you want to be successful what Bens telling you a dating coach would charge you to tell you. Its constructive advise. Your talking but not listening! Its your call either listen to Ben or become another member of the nut-gang!!! And if you think im another “know it all” ive been told off lots by other members but always learn from my mistakes and always try to be the best version of me i can be... I know people (more than one who have found there husbands here) to call the site or any part of it a scam is an opinion of a man whos not willing to see his own mistakes! A large % of forum is made up of women who met there husbands here! Or maybe we are all lieing and your in the right? I think anyone reading this post of yours can see the truth of the matter and why you aint met the woman of your dreams!

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Ridvan, 52 y.o.

United Kingdom

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I guess you're here because you set your partners up with bait. how could one person be brought up so depraved as to set a trap for another?.. you're setting me up, and you think you can convince the women here with this depravity. and you write it here.    adolescent

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