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Ray

Maximum Age Gap

Any advice on maximum age gap between a man and a woman?
Some say age is just a number, but I think there should be certain considerations.
For example, as a man, if I married a younger woman I would be concerned about dying and leaving her to live left alone.



What are your thoughts? Any other considerations?
Thanks.

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Vera, 50 y.o.

Russia

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No matter if she is younger or older for such cases there should be insurance and you should take care of her - help with other education, finding a job, leaving her savings, a house, then at least she won't find herself in the street.


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Ira


I would feel comfortable if a man is 5 years older than me, that is maximum, no more.

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Olga, 68 y.o.

Belarus

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Все зависит от Ваших
отношений,совместной жизни, как Вы сможете влюбить в себя свою избранницу и ее моральных качеств (моральных ценностей).Расскажу Вам свою историю:мы с моим экс-супругом учились в одном институте, он на 4,5 года младше меня,а я на пятом.В 25 я родила сына.До этого я не знала что такое отношения с мужчиной и на настолько влюбилась в своего мужа,я узнавала его шаги на лестнице,я ждала его уже с магазина,когда он только 5 минут назад ушел,а интим на гране сказки.И вот наш сын заболел,а он в это время находился у бабушки (свекрови),она позвонила, что она боится (несет ответственность за нашего ребенка) у него под T-40.Я бросила все и уехала к ним,муж пообещал приехать на выходные,но он так и не появился.Я почувствовала что-то неладное и переговорила со свекровью и уехала домой и что! Я застала мужа с женщиной в моей постели.Конечно я подала на развод,было очень больно,но простить ему я не смогла.25 лет я не могла думать о других мужчинах,жила ради ребенка.Только сейчас осознав, что могла быть другая а может и лучшая любовь я пришла сюда,когда мне уже так много, а было всего 30 когда мы развелись.Все зависит от нас, от наших поступков,насколько Вы сможете оставить след в сердце другого человека,от моральных ценностей.Возраст не имеет никакого значения, только любовь и человек ценность!

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Olga, 68 y.o.

Belarus

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Да,забыла написать,когда он сделал мне предложение,я не соглашалась из-за приличной разницы в возрасте 4,5 года,я старше.Так он открыл окно и сказал что выпрыгнет с 5 этажа. А получилось все то как? Быть уверенном в другом человеке всегда очень сложно.Все зависит только от каждого из нас!


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Liliya

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Ольга, столько лет Вы живете обидой. Вы себя обокрали. Лучшие года потратили на воспоминания.

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Olga, 68 y.o.

Belarus

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Да,жила ребенком, работой.Что поделаешь сердцу не прикажешь.Человек оставил след в моем сердце,в моей душе
хоть и пережила предательство.

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Olga, 68 y.o.

Belarus

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Хорошо что пост открытый.Многие мужчины и женщины увидят себя!За мимолетное увлечение, предательство разрушили семью (предали жену и сына)как в моем случае,а бывает и больше детей и им же их не жалко ...
Люди думайте о своих поступках!


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Zoya

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Ольга, очень жаль, что вы поздно это осознали. Но детям не нужны жертвы, у них своя жизнь. Дети с отцом не общаются? Это зависит от того, как мама им преподнесет информацию об отце.

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Olga, 68 y.o.

Belarus

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Зоя,почему не общаются.Просто границы сейчас нас разделяют и это сложнее.


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Zoya

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Вот и хорошо. Простите и отпустите.


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Catherine


Of course, this is only a General scheme. And quite harmonious relations are possible, because any marriage - regardless of the difference in years - depends only on the desire of partners to find a common language, on their desire for mutual understanding. If the aspirations and goals of the partners coincide, their relationship and subsequent marriage can be no less happy (or even more) than the marriage of peers. The main guarantee of a strong Union is not the date of birth in the passport, but the psychological compatibility of partners. And, of course, love.
Good day! 😊 

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Irena, 48 y.o.

Russia

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Я была замужем за мужчиной, который старше меня на 10 лет, разошлись, потом жила с мужчиной, который старше на 18 лет, тоже расстались, а сейчас встречаюсь который младше на 9 лет, просто кайф. А вообще на мой взгляд не советую мужчине брать женщину на много младше, это не надёжно, женщина будет искать помоложе всегда.


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Zoya

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Мне все-таки кажется, что дело не совсем в возрасте, а во взаимопонимании и любви. Я не поддерживаю большую разницу в возрасте, ни в одну, ни в другую сторону, но никогда не знаешь, что может случиться завтра. Знаете, так бывает, когда говоришь, вот у меня точно такое не случится... Слова материальны )))


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Catherine

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А почему на свой взгляд , вы не советуете мужчине Брать женщину на много младше? Женщина будет искать помоложе всегда,с ваших слов-это вы судите по себе? Ничего личного ,пардон!)

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Svetlana, 62 y.o.

Russia

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А зря, не надо было подавать на развод. Просто подарили мужа этой женщине. Если мужчина нравится, тем более муж, нужно бороться. Потерять легко, найти невозможно.

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Svetlana, 62 y.o.

Russia

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Побороть свою гордость. Ну и что, застала, мужчины другие, психология от женщины в корне отличается. Не надо было мужа своего отдавать. Получилось очень легко отдала той женщине.

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Olga, 47 y.o.

Azerbaijan

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Как страшно это слышать. Неприятное слово "бороться" за мужчину. Не семейная жизнь а арена гладиаторов   Так еще и за того который мало того что изменяет жене в их постели, но еще и наплевал на ребенка и развлекается когда тот болеет. Как раз таки таких найти легче всего, только вот зачем такие нужны


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Elena


Good evening! I don’t know if you have found the answer to your question, but I decided to express my opinion. The difference in age does not matter, psiological comfort is important. The age of a partner is important for one person, psychological compatibility is important for another. The main thing is that you are always well together and that every minute brings joy. And age, here everyone decides for himself, depending on his attitudes and level of personal maturity.


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Lena


Hi, Ray.
My future husband 7 years older of me. It is ok. It is normal. We are happy!

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Nicolas, 53 y.o.

France

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well i'am older than you but i look younger i look like mid 30's and i feel myself more nearer of the youngest generation than mine,i'am in very good health aside smoking,yes i know,it's bad,but i'am vegan since 15 years at least maybe more and i don't drink alcohol,i know than many easterners girls and women are afflicted by this behaviour in there countries,or if i drink is rare and not heavy,like belgian beers,being vegan adding 20% at minima of extra longer life and your lowest your mortality risks of 12% each 6 years,i have allready earn 24% at minima of lowest mortality risks,because i don't remember when i became totally vegan,i progressivelly became vegan,and i eat one time per day,less your eat longer your live,after i think under 50 a big age gap is not a real problem, over 50/60 if you are not in good health 15/20 is a max,you need to find a partner who is ready,i don't prefer imagine that part,less you think about it less it's came soon

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if you remember what answered winston churchill ,when a journalist ask him


"sir winston chruchill,what the secret of your longevity?"
and winston churchill reply sacarstically : "no sport!",it always make me me smile,sacred winston die at 90 years,joke aside, regenerate your dna telomeres regenerate the extremity of your telomeres(telomase) with astragalus(Huang-Qi) and you will live longer,lowest your cholesterol level,mine is very low ,as my arterial pressure tension(between 12.5 and 13)trash your junk food!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Telomere
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Astragalus
i have read serious studies than younger women with older men is better,even past 50,men live longer,and the contrary women die sooner with a youngest partner(the cougar with the young adonis toyboy stereotype)
indeed many people are psycho-rigid about age gap,more your are psycho-rigid,more your hurt your karma,age gap is also called age-hypergamy
but i'am a bit out to gave you the right answer,i don't know ,ray you are 43 ok,you could settle down a 18/25 girl of the "keeper" kind with no problem,if she fit your value and if you fit the z generation as well
i'am in this mindset to find a very young one too,it's not magic wizard,it's just a question of how to bring her to you,for sure if you spent your time watching sports and drinking beers like a coach potatoe,your reduce your chances
sorry ray if change of topic,but i will could interest you
sorry eastern girls/ladies i'am a westerner and i express myself and i think like that
but we are not so far,indeed i look like an ukrainian/balt even i'am celt,i have probably balt/viking ancestry of very far by my mother side i'am half britain/half burgand
and i'am looking for a girl of the varangian ancestry,if i seek in russia/ukraine,indeed it's the viking tribe the varangians who are the founders of ukraine and russia,not the slavics and the huns, i have made my study on it,meaning i'am looking in the northwest(seen from west)area of russia/belaruss(but belaruss is problematic because it's not a democratic country) and upper ukraine(north/north east) amid other countries
they even gave the name to russia( rus'/ruthenes) they settle down,they found kiev and novgorod for example a girl like this miss ukraine pageant 2007 below,with the same phenotype and facial traits of the fenno-scandians

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Svetlana, 51 y.o.

United States

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"i'am older than you but i look younger i look like mid 30's"

Then, why don't you post your real photo in your profile? The one that you're currently using apparently belongs to 50 y.o. man.

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Tatyana, 46 y.o.

Ukraine

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Nicolas , you do not like older women than you moreover you prefer a 30 years younger women. What make you so sure that women prefer an opposite?

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Nicolas, 53 y.o.

France

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old photo,bad period of my life,i was over weight/chubby because i'am endomorph,and since i have lost over than 20 kilogs and i'am under my weight(65) now and stable,but i haven't a lot and i'am busy ,so new ones will wait,i assure you than i look better now,it's was an experiment,but i have all my hairs if you want to know,men who lost there hairs are in bad health,and i haven't almost no wrinkles aside my rictus and my forehead,i have cycling a lot too so it's maybe the effort who gave wrinkles,sorry but there is some people who looks older than me,older is also how they act and dress,north american men looks senior compared to me,maybe we haven't the same references and criterias,i have regenerate a lot since these last ten years too,i don't say than
i'am looks like a teen,i say i looks younger than senior/grandpa north american men
yes i looks more mid 30's than 40/50,i ask too my female pharmacist of the same age range, the other day and she had says than i look younger too, so i had invented nothing,maybe we are not on the same scale values

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the main difference between our gender it's than we don't use a triple layer of fundament make-up for higing our wrinkles,it's easy for you to criticize us.

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Nicolas, 53 y.o.

France

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i reply to myself because i have forget the photo of the pageant constestor of miss Ukraine 2007
the tall girl in the extrem right with the white top and who will come as example about the viking ancestry of some north-western russian and ukrainian,but you could call and regroup them as finnish baltic main group if you prefer,like the karelians,vesps,estonians etc...
below different phenotypes as ,asteo-nordid,nordid and halstatt and she match perfectly with the halstatt phenotype,amazing,but it's a very low percentage,indeed i'am even surprise than you could find these kind of faces in ukraine,it's quite rare but not impossible,it's the second girl who came from eastern countries than i seen matching perfectly the halstastt phenotype,the other one beeing russian from another dating site with her lover in the testimonies

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Svetlana, 51 y.o.

United States

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"i look better now"

Good for you.

"north american men looks senior compared to me"

I believe you haven't met many Americans. There are quite a few really handsome guys here.

"the main difference between our gender it's than we don't use a triple layer of fundament make-up for higing our wrinkles,it's easy for you to criticize us."

Well, I've always thought that the difference between the two genders is more pronounced than just wearing make-up. I personally believe that the main difference between individuals, regardless of their gender and their looks, is in their ability and willingness to use their brain and put some effort into thought process prior to verbalizing their ideas.

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Svetlana, 51 y.o.

United States

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Nicolas, I have a question for you if that's okay with you.
In your profile, you stated that you desire to meet with a girl of 18-20 y.o. You also mentioned that you are not willing to cover expenses for a meeting should you find such a girl. Most 18-20-year-old Russian and Ukrainian girls are students and do not have their own income, or if they do work, that is an entry-level position with low pay. If you invite the girl to visit you in your country how do you expect her to pay for the trip?


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Yuliya

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А можно Вам задать не скромные вопросы?
1.Сколько времени Вы находитесь в поиске своего идеала?
2.У Вас такие четкие представления о том, чего Вы хотите. Сколько времени Вы готовы потратить для поиска своего идеала. Год или два года, может быть 5 лет?
Если хотите можете не отвечать. Я пойму.


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Natalia

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Sorry, but you look your fifty years old.

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Eric, 75 y.o.

Netherlands

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Amen (or a man ??)


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Natalia

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Светлана, там, по моему все ясно.  
Мы уже это обсуждали, на сайты знакомств приходят разные экземпляры, это один из представителей, тех, самых экземпляров .... 

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