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John

Lies about the past

My girl lied to me! I have been in a relationship with a wonderful woman I met on this site. But now after 1 year, I have discovered that she traveled to meet 2 other men on this site, in the previous 18 months. She told me that she had never met with a man from this site before, or skyped. Am I a fool to continue seeing this woman. Ladies, what do you think?

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Eric, 76 y.o.

Netherlands

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Olga ,

I suppose we understand each other very well.
Wishing you a Merry Orthodoxe Christmas and a Happy Holiday.

Let the SPIRIT of WISDOM and PEACE grow DEEPER ......

All the best

Eric


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Kiti

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Да, вы правы. У меня обратная ситуация. Я говорю правду о том, сколько мне лет. Не верят. В школе некоторые коллеги просили паспорт показать.

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Paul, 57 y.o.

Canada

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Question her on why she felt compelled to lie to you. Paul

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Paul, 57 y.o.

Canada

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Reply to Nadezhda on View the commented comment

I agree Nad, but i would still ask her why she felt she had to lie.

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Paul, 57 y.o.

Canada

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Reply to John on View the commented comment

John dont trust her, many good ladies on this great site


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Victoria


Просто за 18 месяцев(а это более чем достаточный срок)она ничего конкретного от вас не услышала.и,может это выглядит не очень красиво,начала искать дальше


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Tom


The lie is the future you will have with this woman. TRUST is the first and most important thing. She broke it with a lie. Im surprised a man of your age, and I can only assume life experiance, needs to ask this really important question. Continue at your peril!


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Tom

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Not just Russian! and yes its normal. You need to observe when they make a fraudualant slip!

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Eric, 76 y.o.

Netherlands

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Tom ,

From what knowledge or experience , with EE or Russian ladies , have you gained this wisdom ?
Have you , or are you involved in a relation/marriage with such a woman ?

If yes , do you mind to tell us , if your relation is still good or do you feel , there is something missing ?

When there is something missing , have you taken steps , to make your relation or marriage work out for the better ?

Whenever I read statements like you have made , I wonder how and why people came to these conclusions.
And are offering them as an absolute truth to someone who wants
to try to understand.

What steps should John have taken , before even put his post online.
It is Always a good thing to have some self reflection.To have a little self-criticism.You may wonder if he asked this question , because he is jealous.

Well that is a very dangerous issue and may lead to an unhappy ending.Furthermore it would have given him some credit , to invest time and energy , in to understand her social and traditional background.

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And to try to look for differences or compare her tradition to his own.Assuming that she may have the same understanding about certain issues , like he has , is not being involved for 100%.

As far as I know , when going for an international relation , you should first know/understand , with what vieuws of life or family traditions you will have to deal.

It is only then , that there is a chance of a good and solid base , and a better understanding , between these 2 persons.
It will be already hard enough to have a good daily relation/life without too many misunderstandings.

So , why would someone already at the start , make it harder ??

Eric

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