What’s age got to do with love?
For Kewal and Jaya, getting married was a decision that was fraught with roadblocks. Their families opposed the relationship, and all and sundry had something negative to say. 'It will not work', 'This is not normal', 'It will create problems in your family life'... the remarks were varied. And the reason? The age gap between them. Jaya was four years older than Kewal. However, the two fought all opposition and got married in court. If you're wondering all the ominous predictions from people came true, well, the couple recently celebrated their eighth anniversary and their relationship has only grown stronger over the years. "The key to success of our relationship is mutual respect, understanding and making efforts towards a better future. We do have our share of arguments, but at the end of the day, we sit down and discuss things like adults. We have rarely let the age factor trigger any fights between us," said Kewal.`
But are Kewal and Jaya an exception? A recent study revealed that greater the age gap, greater is the risk of a break-up. According to research, those with a five-year age gap are more likely to split than an equal-age couple, while the chances double when there is a bigger age gap. Couples with an age gap of just one year were the least likely to split.
But does that stand true for India, where arranged marriages have traditionally focussed on a much bigger age difference between the husband and wife, with the husband being older to the wife? And even when the difference is much more than a year, is it necessary for the wife to be younger for the relationship to be successful? We spoke to experts to find out if age really makes a difference in a relationship.
The focus on age is reducing
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Today, the younger generation is showing a steady shift in attitude and markers, that used to be all-important, like religion, caste and age. Says Forum Lalka, clinical psychiatrist, "In the Indian context, we still adhere to the remnants of traditions towards an alliance between an older man and younger woman, but with changing times, Indian couples are now looking at the bigger picture. The age factor is becoming more and more redundant by the day." Rajiv Anand, a marriage counsellor, agrees. "Many a times, people working in the same office get emotionally and physically involved and ignore the age gap to get married, even if the wife is older than the husband," he adds.
Is there an optimum age gap?
According to Anand, couples should go the traditional way. "To ensure smooth functioning of a marriage, the husband should be three to four years older or at least one year older than his wife. Men feel that they are the uncrowned kings in the kingdom of marriage while educated and well earning girls find it hard to adjust to this fact. So, some women select a man who is of the same age or younger than them. However, this might result in rough patches as soon as the honeymoon phase is over, as the man will not want to be dictated. This will eventually lead to friction, resistance and challenges," he opines. However, Lalka feels that the age factor is only secondary. "Each marriage is a tailor-made relationship and there cannot be an optimum age gap that will suit every couple. As long as two people share an understanding, are at similar wavelengths, and deal with issues that crop up in a relationship in a mature manner, age can never threaten their bond. People can be happy, in spite of the wife being older to the husband, as long as they strive towards a common goal — a content married life."
How to tackle it?
The simple solution, says Lalka, is to keep in mind that age is just a number. The old adage, she says, is as true as you want it to be. "With more and more Indian women being financially independent, and not being bogged down by the biological clock, we see a lot of couples with older wives and younger husbands. My advice to them would be to value their partnership rather than getting influenced by what society says. They shouldn't let insecurities seep in," she concludes.
Anand says, "It depends on you and what factors you allow to affect your relationship. Your age can just be a number, if you treat it that way and don't let anything come between the two of you. Both husband and wife are equal in a relationship and there shouldn't be any sense of superiority or one-upmanship."
Read this Story "Anecdotes From The Life Of Sudha Murty Which Proves She Is An Epitome Of Simplicity"
Sudha Murty the chairperson of Infosys Foundation is also a philanthropist and writer in Kannada and English.She has founded several orphanages, participated in rural development efforts, supported the movement to provide all Karnataka government schools with computer and library facilities.However, even after being one of the richest women in the country money has never got over her head and her simple lifestyle and social works are excellent examples of this.
For the riches, the best place to flaunt their money is clothing.But not for the Infosys Foundation chairperson.One of India’s richest women, Sudha Murty in an interview with PTI revealed that the last saree she bought was 21 years ago, before she went to Kashi.
When asked about the reason she gracefully reveals, “I was in Kashi to take the holy dip, and when you go to Kashi you have to give up something that you enjoy the most. I gave up shopping, particularly sarees, from thereon. I now only buy the essential items,” Murthy told PTI. I have to say I feel very happy and free,” she added.
However, she loves reading and doesn’t mind spending money on books.The Murty couple loves reading, and have a massive collection of over 20,000 books arranged in two libraries. Sudha is strictly against the idea of lending books to someone and tells, “I tell my husband, ‘how could writers survive if everybody started borrowing their books?’ We, the authors, want people to buy books. “That is the only way we can earn — from our royalty”. Sudha has established over 60,000 libraries in Karnataka alone through the Infosys Foundation.
In her latest book, Three Thousand stitches she talks about the problems that she faced during her engineering days.”I cried after writing that story. I don’t know how I could do that at that point in life. But the fact that I did not have a toilet for four years in the college motivated me to build 13,000 toilets in the state,” Sudha told to TIE.
About starting the Infosys, Sudha recalls how she initially funded the company with her savings of Rs 10,000. She gave her husband three years to fulfill his dream. “At the time, I told him to bring bread on the table in those three years. And if he could buy a two-wheeler and a two-bed room house, that would be the ultimate for me,” she said to PTI. And the world knows what was the result. According to Forbes, Narayana Murthy’s net worth at present amounts to USD 1.92 billion.
Sudha has made 2,300 houses in flood affected areas for helping earthquake victims in Gujarat.She is helping out rural areas by building 10,000 public toilets and several hundred toilets in the city of Bangalore. Murty’s social work covers the healthcare, education, empowerment of women, public hygiene, art and culture, and poverty alleviation at the grassroots level.
What could be more inspiring than a woman having so much wealth, living life with such simplicity and contributing to the welfare of the society to such an extent? Truly an inspiration!
The Ultimate Guide To Dealing With Anger Issues
let me share with you a story:
A saint and his disciples were visiting the Ganges river, where they found a group of family members on the banks shouting in anger at each other. Turning to his disciples, the saint smiled and asked, ‘Why do people in anger shout at each other?’
His disciples thought for a while. One of them finally said, ‘Because when we lose our calm, we shout.’
‘But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you?’ countered the saint. ‘You can just as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.’ His disciples thought about it some more, but could not come up with a satisfactory answer. Finally the saint explained,
‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other, in order to cover that great distance.
But what happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but instead talk very softly because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either non-existent or very small. And when they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only need to look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.
So when you argue, do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.
In this small little story, lies the crux of dealing with anger issues.
If we were to define anger in better words, we could say it is:
1. A game of dominance where defiance has to be dealt with aggression. You need to mark your territory with raised voices and pointed fingers.
2. An act of control where you establish your LOC because Believe it or not, we are all control freaks.
3. A veil that shrouds the best of minds and distances the closest of hearts.
Have you ever noticed how when we are angry we generally want to kill the same person we would normally die without?
A cooler, much more human and grown up way is – to develop this sheer quality of thinking about what you can say in those moments. Flinging back mud is very easy. Perhaps the easiest. But talking logic and making sense in those moments of distress is the hallmark of a human being who is exercising his human qualities.
It is mediocre to lose your calm because a) everyone does it. And b) being calm is a superior and much more impactful way of dealing with situations that are not in our stride. There might be catharsis in anger but it’s fire over fire. There is grace in that zen like patience and quietness; and that’s the best fire extinguisher you can possess.
Ali Ihsan, 41 y.o.
Select friends well
One day an elephant wandered into a forest in search of friends. He saw a monkey on a tree. “Will you be my friend?” asked the elephant.
Replied the monkey, “You are too big. You can not swing from trees like me.” Next, the elephant met a rabbit. He asked him to be his friends.
But the rabbit said, “You are too big to play in my burrow!” Then the elephant met a frog. “Will you be my friend? He asked.
“How can I?” asked the frog. “You are too big to leap about like me.” The elephant was upset.
He met a fox next. “Will you be my friend?” he asked the fox.
The fox said, “Sorry, sir, you are too big.” The next day, the elephant saw all the animals in the forest running for their lives.
The elephant asked them what the matter was. The bear replied, “There is a tiger in the forest. He’s trying to gobble us all up!” The animals all ran away to hide. The elephant wondered what he could do to save everyone in the forest.
Meanwhile, the tiger kept eating up whoever he could find. The elephant walked up to the tiger and said, “Please, Mr. Tiger, do not eat up these poor animals.” “Mind your own business!” growled the tiger.
The elephant has a no choice but to give the tiger a hefty kick. The frightened tiger ran for his life. The elephant ambled back into the forest to announce the good news to everyone.
All the animals thanked the elephant. They said, “You are just the right size to be our friend.”
Be happy always
Look at & appreciate all you have and all you've done as you move forward.
Many people are 'waiting' to be happy and relax and enjoy life.
''I'll be happy once this project's over, when the kitchen's painted, when this floor is fixed, when the kids are at school, when my health improves, when my debts are paid, when i get a new car''
BE HAPPY NOW! Now is the only time that exists.... True happiness is enjoying the JOURNEY, not just the destination!
Look around you at all the beautiful people, animals, things, in your life...be grateful... be happy now, don't wait.
Have an amazing weekend friends!
Rich, 50 y.o.
Tips for men on here - one veterans insights
I have been going to Ukraine (Kiev) for about three years (from Canada) and have had three very serious relationships and probable been on about 30 dates (not one bad one). Here are some tips:
1. Stick to women in main ports like Kiev or Moscow (less travelling and costs). Favor Ukraine over Russia as you need no visa. Kiev is an amazing city and the women are beautiful and friendly.
2. NEVER EVER send money - EVER. If they ask for it, they are scamming. If they say they can get cheaper flights if they pay, they are scamming. If they won't video chat, they are scamming (give them some time of course). If they have many sad stories, drop them. Even if they are not scamming they might just be negative.
3. It is fine to go much younger, but be prepared for a less mature woman. This is obvious, but beauty doesn't last long trust me. I dated a 25 yr old for 3 months (I am 46) and though a lot of fun, at times it was very frustrating, same with one 29 yr old. There are many beautiful older women and trust me guys Ukrainian women know how to treat their men.`
4. Be prepared for cultural differences - in thought and action. Some are harmless and some will drive you nuts hahah.
5. If you do start travelling there, pick one airline and sign up for points. I am now skypriority with KLM and get upgraded to business all the time.
6. Don't be cheap.
7. Buy them small gifts and flowers. Flowers is not to say sorry in Ukraine, it is for love. Men give flowers all the time and if you don't she will wonder what she did wrong.
8. Don't drink too much. They will notice and since this is a cultural issue in Slavic countries she will drop you. Plus you might do something done.
9. Treat them with respect and like ladies. Be a gentleman. They owe you NOTHING for going there, certainly not sex. They are not "easy", they are ladies and generally well brought up and educated. You to earn their trust and their affections. Again, no matter what you spent to be there (that was your choice) they owe you NOTHING.
10. Red flags. If you see three things that bother or worry you early on, move on (arguing alot would be one, mean to strangers, etc..). You will regret it if you don't (unfortuantely - trust me on this one).
Good luck and remember be a gentleman - these women do not deserve to be treated poorly just because they are from a poorer country.
DO YOU HATE SOMEONE? A Nice story with a good moral. Please go through.
A kindergarten teacher decided to let her class play a game.
The teacher told each child in the class to bring along a plastic bag containing a few potatoes.
Each potato will be given a name of a person that the child hates.
So the number of potatoes that a child will put in his/her plastic bag will depend on the number of people he/she hates.
So when the day came, each child brought some potatoes with the name of the people he/she hated.
Some had 2 potatoes; some 3 while some up to 5 potatoes. The teacher then told the children to carry with them the potatoes in the plastic bag wherever they go (even to the toilet) for 1 week.
Days after days passed by, and the children started to complain due to the unpleasant smell let out by the rotten potatoes. Besides, those having 5 potatoes also had to carry heavier bags. After 1 week, the children were relieved because the game had finally ended…
The teacher asked: “How did you feel while carrying the potatoes with you for 1 week?”. The children let out their frustrations and started complaining of the trouble that they had to go through having to carry the heavy and smelly potatoes wherever they go.
Then the teacher told them the hidden meaning behind the game.
The teacher said: “This is exactly the situation when you carry your hatred for somebody inside your heart. The stench of hatred will contaminate your heart and you will carry it with you wherever you go.If you cannot tolerate the smell of rotten potatoes for just 1 week, can you imagine what is it like to have the stench of hatred in your heart for your lifetime???”
Moral of the story:
Throw away any hatred for anyone from your heart so that you will not carry sins for a lifetime.
Forgiving others is the best attitude to have !!
HEART TOUCHING STORY!
HEART TOUCHING STORY!
Ex Indian President Dr. Abdul Kalam Says:
"When I was a kid, my Mom cooked food for us.
One night in particular when she had made dinner after a long hard day's work, Mom placed a plate of 'Vegetables' and extremely burnt bread in front of my Dad.
I was waiting to see if anyone noticed the burnt bread. But Dad just ate his bread and asked me how was my day at school.
I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember I heard Mother apologizing to Dad for the burnt Bread.
And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burnt Bread."
Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy, good night & I asked him if he really liked his bread burnt. He wrapped me in his arms & said:
"Your mother put in a long hard day at work today and she was really tired. And besides... A burnt bread never hurts anyone but HARSH WORDS DO!"
Mark, 65 y.o.
Cost of Ukrainian Passport
In Ukraine people have local passport used as main ID inside the country and if they need to travel abroad they need to get International Passport. It can be with a chip with biometric data about the person or without a chip. The cost of the passport is $45 if you want to make it fast and it will be ready in 7 working days. You can also get it cheaper for $35, the passport will be ready in 20 days. International passports are issued by Migration Service of Ukraine that has offices in all cities around Ukraine. The international passport is valid for 10 years and you can get it starting from the age of 16.
Felt like SHARING the conversation don't take it personally please
In 9 out of the 10 cases we identified the prime reason to be
'Lack of depth in the relationship between the Husband & Wife' (for whatever reasons)
They are NOT ONE but are two forces operating in two different directions (inspite of good intentions).
Blame games, Egos & puerile expectations from each other (lack of maturity),
Spending huge energies & time on relatives & people from outside (than inside families)
Lack of creativity in creating good memories with their kids (& with each other),
Busyness in Money chases / IMAGE growth (Random usually).
or any else - e.g. greater love for Mobile phones & TVs when even at home.
We inferred that besides LUCK; the other primary FACTOR for huge family success & happiness between 30 & 60 yrs is - 'The Husband & The Wife NEED TO BE ONE'. When they are ONE - then two forces (instead of one) solve things together leading to a higher probability of a big bang.
Even MAINTENANCE MODE between the husband & wife is not real PROGRESS. It gets boring & mediocre usually.
'DEPTH' is the answer & the MAIN keyword. How creative you are to shed aside egos & create DEPTH?
Parenting is a heroic job. And the best gift that super heroes give to their kids is 'the gift of loving their mother/ father'
This is not a psycho-social study or any research but just a very strong gut check (w.r.t. Indian conditions). Felt like SHARING the conversation with you
Wonderful , fabulous message sent by a friend. Felt like sharing Sometimes You are unsatisfied with Your Life, while many people in this world are Dreaming of Living Your Life..
A Child on a Farm sees a Plane fly overhead & Dreams of Flying, but a Pilot on the Plane sees the Farmhouse & Dreams of Returning Home.
That's Life!! Enjoy Yours
If wealth is the secret to happiness, then the rich should be dancing on the streets.
But only poor kids do that.
If power ensures security, then officials should walk unguarded.
But those who live simply, sleep soundly.
If beauty and fame bring ideal relationships, then celebrities should have the best marriages.
All good will come back to you....
Eric, 73 y.o.
Online Dating - my search
Poem for the ladies
I feel the cool fresh air
It is striking on my face
It comes from everywhere
And has no hiding place
It gives me energy
To try to think really clear
What a beautiful world this would be
If we all were so sincere
We have no guarantee
What future we will get
All that we can be
Lies in our passed and present life-thread
I am on this site
To seek my future wife
It feels like an unknown flight
Through the secrets of our life
How long can I go on ?
In this life`s episode
Someday , will I be the ONE
To WIN YOUR HEART , with the UNLOCK CODE ???
Eric - (C) - copyright July 2013
Ladies do not worry ...
This poem will not lock any files on your computer ...
And I will not ask for your heart as a ransom ...
I can hear this song in the distance -
- the captain of her heart by Double -
Stay Single Until You Meet A Girl Like This
Stay single until you meet the girl whose love heals you, changes you and makes you better.
The girl you look at with a confidence you’ve never known before.
The girl you’d proudly introduce your parents to.
Stay single until you meet the girl who makes you act fast because you can’t stand the thought of her being with anyone else.
The type of girl you can’t imagine hurting or disappointing.
Stay single until you meet the type of girl who believes in you and your dreams and is in your corner entirely.
The one who builds you up constantly and pushes you to be more and do more.
The one who is driven and motivates you to do more.
The one who forces you to take chances in your life.
But the greatest of all is taking a chance on her.
Stay single until you meet the girl who scares you a little.
The one who makes you feel ways you haven’t before.
The one you think about at 2 Am as you wonder, “what is happening to me?”
Stay single until you meet the girl whose face you see when you listen to certain songs, that used to not mean much to you.
The one who makes you smile and laugh in ways you forget.
The one who makes you forget about pain from the past.
Stay single until you meet the girl who is genuine and has a heart of gold.
The one who beats to her own drum and is authentic.
The one whose touch heals you.
Whose kiss makes you want more.
Whose presence makes you enjoy every moment.
The one who makes you want to be a better man.
Stay single until you meet the girl you have to try a little harder to impress because everything in the past you’ve done with others won’t work.
The one who makes you want to take it slow in a generation that tells us to rush into the things.
The girl who makes you nervous before a first date.
The one who won’t take you for granted and will always says thank you.
Stay single until you meet the girl who meets you half way.
The one who accepts your shortcomings and flaws.
Stay single until you meet the girl you can look at and see a good mother you can raise a family with.
The one you want to build a life with.
The one who can hold her own and doesn’t need you but chooses you.
Stay single until you meet the girl who would do anything for you.
The one who loves you deeply and isn’t afraid of it.
Stay single until you meet the girl you want to spoil.
The one you want to spend Sunday mornings with.
The one you can look at sleeping and think she’s the most beautiful girl in the world.
Stay single until you find a girl who still gives you butterflies when she walks in a room, as you say to everyone around you, “that’s her.”
The one you look at and think, “finally.”
Until then stay single.
25 LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP DATE IDEAS AND ACTIVITIES
Here is a list of date ideas and activities you can do with your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/significant other in your long distance relationship.
1) Watch movies or TV shows simultaneously together
Rent the same movie and watch it together or you can access a streaming movie online. Communicate by text or webcam while you’re watching the movie.
2) Play 20 Questions
In a long distance relationship, most of your interactions is confined to verbal communication. So make the most of it. Come up with 20 meaningful or silly or insightful questions for you to ask your boyfriend/girlfriend to get to know them better.
3) Send your boyfriend/girlfriend flowers
Call a local or national florist. If you can’t afford them, you can always send a digital bouquet or include a few fake petals in your next letter or care package.
4) Share an online drive
Share a online file hosting service like DropBox or ICloud. This will not only save your phone bill but it’s a great way to share photos or love letters with each other
5) Send your scent
Exchange your perfumes or colognes so the other person can remember what you smell like
6) Read a book
Pick out a book with a subject you both like. Read at your own leisure and talk about it. It’s your very own private book club.
7) Send “Open When” letters
Write some encouraging notes for when the other may be feeling sad or lonely or stressed. This is the perfect pick-me-up when you guys aren’t together.
That’s what webcams, tablets, and smartphones are for.
9) Share a journal
Go back and forth and write different entries. Read what the other one wrote and either respond or expand to it. One day, this journal will make for amazing memories.
10) Send care packages
It’s a great way to spoil your loved ones with goodies. Personal tip: use the flat rate boxes from the post office to help save money.
11) Make a mixtape
There’s multiple ways to do this. Send them your youtube playlists of songs or download songs to a usb or mp3 player for them.
12) Play a game
Something like “Words with Friends” or other fun apps. The best part is it’s self-paced so you can guys can plan when you have time (which helps when you’re in different time zones)
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13) Share recipes
Swap recipes with one another. They know what it’s supposed to taste like but you don’t. Test out the recipes and report back of what you thought. It’s as if you guys are “cooking” together.
14) Create a digital photo album together
A lot of sites at digital photo albums for you to click and drop photos into. Work on one together, and then order a hardcopy once it’s complete.
15) Get Healthy
A healthy couple is a happy couple. Apps like “my fitness pal” allows you to motivate and encourage others on their fitness and health goals. Choose a goal and then encourage your partner to meet theirs.
16) Play on Pinterest
Set up a joint Pinterest account and create boards like “future house”, “vacations”, “wedding ideas”. You can visualize what the other person’s dreams are for your relationship.
17) Get crafty
Both of you decide on some homemade to make and give to one another. It could be food or crafts or woodwork, anything. It’ll mean more since you know they made it with their own hands.
1 Watch YouTube & Vimeo together in sync!
You can use Sync-Video to u create a chat room in which you can watch YouTube or Vimeo videos with other people. Make a room private however, and use it for just you guys.
19) Listen to the news or music together
With online streaming, you guys can listen to the same station at the same time.
RELATED: 10 THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS
20) Be “Naughty”
Just remember, the internet is forever.
21) Learn something
Take a free online class together and improve your skill in practically any subject nowadays. Another language? Crafting? Cooking?
22) GoPro the exciting and outrageous stuff
I had a friend who wore a GoPro when she went parasailing over the ocean. She shared the video with her long distance boyfriend and he thought it was awesome.
23) Add Color
They make coloring books for adults. You can color ½ a page or the whole pages and send it back and forth until it’s complete.
24) Meet the Family
Introduce your significant other to family members, friends, or pets. It may not be formal but your significant other should get to know the other important people in your life.
25) Send Long Distance Relationship Gifts
These are some cute gifts that I’ve found and will certainly make you significant other smile.
Remember this Every relationship requires quality communication, so you can understand why your partner or their family do certain things, and vice versa.Falling in love with someone from another culture or country has an extra dose of excitement because not only are you discovering another human, you’re discovering a whole new way of life. So Communicate with a person on live chat by through Skype is very Important, so that you can trust that person and go and meet that person personally as soon as possible.
You cannot make everyone happy. No matter what you do - some people have that permanent fault finding microscope embedded right into their DNA !!
Trust me - you need not worry about them. Work for your believers. Even if you truly add value to one life around you - it is mission accomplished !!
The mind is always working. We have no control over this. But we do have control over how it works. Mind is the creator. We do not realize the subtlety of it.
DO NOT FEED a bad habit with thoughts about it. Think about the opposite good habit. Whatever you focus on, you will get more of If you aren’t happy about conditions in your life, examine your thoughts. You are probably focusing on the negative and that's why you are getting more of it.
It is sinful, to think small and negative. Because you LEAD yourself directly into that !!
Pensamiento sobre la Mujer
No tienes porque tratar de entender a una mujer, solo amala, admírala, disfrútala, deja que sea libre y sé libre con ella, no la conviertas en un complemento de tu machismo. Tampoco trates de entender su actitud, solo entiende lo que se necesita para hacerla sentir bien y hazla sentir bien! y entonces cuando actúes de esta manera ella te querrá. no puedes hacer que te quiera a la fuerza, no puedes ser brusco porque no recibirás nada, no puedes atarla porque se te escapara de las manos, no intentes ser su máximo dueño, nadie es dueño de nadie... así firmes un contrato de matrimonio no podrás tener propiedad sobre los deseos y sentimientos de una mujer.
Siempre he dicho que la mujer es la debilidad del hombre, y de aquí el porque el hombre siempre a marginado al sexo opuesto, ha convertido la figura femenina en su esclavo. El hombre en su cobardía hace creer a la mujer que es inferior para mantenerla dormida, para que no despierten su gran potencial, para que no se den cuenta que son peligrosas para nuestro orgullo de "machos", y de que pueden manejar el mundo por un mejor camino que nosotros. Ellas son el lado hermoso de la humanidad, pero nunca han participado en ella, ¡se les ha prohibido! y es por esto que la historia de la humanidad es tan decadente y horrorosa, pues siempre ha sido mano y obra del hombre.
La mujer es un maravilloso regalo de la existencia, su cuerpo es un delicado camino que solo se puede recorrer si posees la exacta y adecuada sutileza, sus pechos, dos delicados monumentos símbolos de su hermosa feminidad, su vientre, fuente de uno de los mas hermosos misterios de la vida. Su actitud un laberinto que se torna oscuro ante la visión de cualquier hombre, su paciencia, la fortaleza con la que ha podido soportar al hombre, su dolor, el mayor dolor que puede soportar el mundo, su coraje, aquella fuerza única que las hace levantar de cualquier caída... y su presencia, aquella luz que siempre ha faltado en la humanidad para ser humanidad.
"Mujer, no odies al hombre porque te convertirás en él"
FALL IN LOVE WITH A REAL MAN
TO MY DEAREST YOUNG GIRLS, MY DAUGHTER AND NICES, AND ALSO YOU
"If you ever read these words, I want to ask you a few minutes of your time ... to try to explain."
"I can not ask you to fall in love with a stranger, that's absurd; But I want to ask you to give it to your heart, knowing that whoever is by your side is a man who will know how to love and appreciate you for the woman you are. "
"I want to ask you, that you fall in love with a real man; One that pursues you with the eyes, like a hungry lion; And that, be lost in the brightness of your eyes, even in the dark. Fall in love with a man, for whom you are the only woman in this world; And, be able to build a castle, even if you only have a pencil and paper. "
"I can not ask you to fall in love with a man who does everything; However, I beg you to fall in love with a man who is willing to do everything for you. "
"I want you to fall in love with a man with enough manliness to cook at night, or when you're tired. A man who can sew a button on your favorite blouse, so you can get to that meeting on time; And, why not, to tell you in the ear that: all will be well. "
"Fall in love with a man who values God, family and friends. For in life, you will need all of them. And, if he's a thief, try to steal only a few kisses; Then your heart will already have stolen you. "
"I want you to fall in love with the one who caresses your face and plays with your hair, so you will know that your mind is alone with you. Anyone can say a "I love you"; But, love shows itself every day, and in the little ones: "I love you" ... "
"I want you to fall in love with a man who tries to fill you with joy; And make you smile, even in your most difficult days. Fall in love with that man, who did not take advantage of you, even in your moments of vulnerability. A true man will respect you, even when you do not want to. "
"Fall in love with a man who does not show off his possessions; But to know how to appreciate and value all that has lived, the people with whom he has shared and the experiences he has accumulated in life. "
"Fall in love with someone who likes to cook and exercise, so you'll have the perfect excuse to eat your whims; And then spend time together: "burning those calories". I want you to fall in love with a man who is willing to oppose you; And, have a different point of view than yours. So, in health, distance or illness, you will know that you can always count on someone who will be by your side: despite of any difference. "
"Fall in love with a man who keeps you in mind at every moment of the day; And, that you fill the life of details. A man, never hide what he feels; And tell you, what you need to know. I want you to fall in love with someone who knows how to listen to you, even in the sordid silence of forgetting. "
"Fall in love with a man who is free, who is yours; That I loved you, and let love for you. Fall in love with someone who, though not me, makes you happy. "
"In the end, if you have not yet understood, you are so worthy of this love so much yours and so mine, that the one you fall in love with will know that: only a real man is worthy of you."
"Do not settle for less ... Never lower the bar."
"He tells you:"
"A MAN IN LOVE WITH YOU. YOUR FATHER"
I am surprised! Message for gentlemen!
Hello gentlemen, I checked the list of women who want to meet me, are 12,200 beautiful girls!!!
Now you will say: WOW MAN YOU ARE VERY LUKY!
When i write a message to some of them, very rarely have the answer.
I suppose that they check on my profile and see that i am tall 168 cm.
The problem is that women "tall" 152 cm write on their profiles they want a 170-175-180cm tall man at least, till 30 cm of difference.
Of course i understand very tall woman if they look for a tall man but a girls tall a meter and a half?
I look good, I succeed in life, I have a lot of culture and interests and high education, I can talk about everything and I honestly do not want to undergo all this.
I answer already a few messages, my response rate will be even lower.
The height is not synonymous with intelligence, success, courage, strength, and ability to solve the problems of life, giving peace of mind to your family, it is only in appearance. `
Men know that today's problems can not be solved with height but need the money and the brain.
Sorry but love? Chemistry? The thought? The parsonality? The reliability?
The women here choose to answer only according to centimeters?
I have much more success in real, i mean out of the site.
I joined this site because I do not like very much Italian women, their way of living and acting, but I see even here the sensitivity and intelligence do not abound.
So, colleagues not tall, what is your experience here?
~ HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE Personality. ~ - Must read.
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control.Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
3. Don't over do; keep your limits.
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does.
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
6. Dream more while you are awake.
7.Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness..
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more.
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Bas, 57 y.o.
I like to invite an Ukrainian woman to my country, The Netherlands. She agrees to come.
Till now I only had contact with her using this website and Whatsapp.
She has no computer with a webcam. So I only received some photos.
She now says an International passport costs 4700 hryvnia (174 USD). This seems a lot of money to me. Can someone tell me?
I want to pay it for her but I am still not sure about her being sincere.
Thanks for your advice.
Majority of today's relationships cry, stink & bleed because-
People take 1/100th of time to get into THAT relationship and then they further are taking 100x time to get over THAT.
Why do not you get this ?? ---Lust is Blind. Flirting is Blind. Loneliness is fully blind. 'Copying what your friends are doing' too is super blind.
Open you EYES baby and please delayyyyyy falling in love!! Love today is Tooooo frequent & Tooooo EASY.
Do something DIFFICULT as 'BECOMING SUPERBLY AWESOME IN YOUR Fitness, Career, Hobbies, Communication & Emotions'. Once you become THIS; the right ones will wait in queue to date you. I promise. I swear .
If you light a lamp for someone else it will also brighten your path. Today be a light to those you meet along the way. A simple smile may brighten someone's path today, a phone call to an old friend, helping an elderly cross the street. No matter how small it might seem shine your light today. One good deed can go a long way for you! one life rise and shine on.
3 reasons why you are trying to change but FAILING to do so:
1) You are doing the same old stuff yet expecting new results. Same distractions, temptations & complications. Same old you.
2) Lack of self-discipline. You need to decide the 4 most imp things and then do them with extreme doggedness. Else, NO POINT!
3) You are menti-sental. Your feelings are your GOD. They run you (and ruin you). Drop those junk emotions in the nearest trashcan. And move on with lesser baggage.
Rise & Shine!
Be RESPONSIBLE for the PRESENCE that you CREATE Always aim to have a POSITIVE impact on the people that surround you ~ Take a second before you enter anywhere that you will encounter others and decide to bring only FAVORABLE energy It feels so much better to leave a room knowing that you’ve left your company in a BETTER state than when you arrived POSITIVITY and smiles are CONTAGIOUS if you carry enough of the "FEEL-GOOD" germ ~ SPREAD it wherever you go, leaving behind symptoms of UPLIFTED spirits, SMILES and JOY Start a "WELL-BEING" epidemic by deciding to infect others with your ENERGY…We don’t need a VACCINE for VIGOR!
An Email this morning am bored, confused & going 'I don't know where'. What should I do ?? Can't bear all this anymore. Want to do something very big in Life. Please answer me !
OK! This is my Answer I don't have the Answer. However I can tell u the method how u may find the direction to your answer 1) Add physical fitness to your life . 60 mins daily burnout for 6 months (without even a single day of break)
2) Identify 10 books to be read and read them in next 6 months. One has to be "Autobiography of a Yogi"
3) Meet 10 successful people from different fields and inner view them
4) Avoid relationship chutzpah for next 6 months
5) Do your current job with 100% focus with absolute intention to excel in it for next 6 months
6) Don't say u r confused to anyone including yourself for next 6 months
Answer will come before 6 months. ..
May the force be with you ,
A school principal in Singapore sent this letter to the parents before the exams..... and yes ! You are going to love reading & sharing THIS one !
The exams of your children will start soon. I know you are all really anxious for your child to do well.
But please do remember amongst the students who will be sitting for the exams...
There is an artist,who doesn't need to understand maths...
There is an entrepreneur, who doesn't care about History or English literature...
There is a musician, whose chemistry marks won't matter...
There is an athlete, whose physical fitness is more important than physics...
If your child does get top mark's, that's Great...!
But if he or she doesn't...
Please don't take away their self-confidence and dignity from them...
Tell them it's Okay...
It's just an exam, they are cut out for much bigger things in life...
Please do this and when you do, watch your children conquer the world...
One exam or low marks won't take away their dreams and talent...
And please do not think Doctors and Engineers are the only happy people in the World...
With warm regards,