Men & women
Again my poem - Another Day
Yes , I did post it here before in October 2017 .Today it is just as actual as 2 years ago ....This week we learned about violence against 2 (young) Indian women.
I wrote this poem 2 years ago , because of the fatal shooting in Las Vegas where about 89 people were killed.But the case of these Indian women is just as tragic ...
The latest victim was on her way to court , when she was kidnapped and set on fire ...
She is now in hospital but is in critical condition.
----- Another Day -----
So , there is a new day
From which (again) YOU cannot run away
The weak sunray glance
May inspire for a new chance
And over a cup of coffee
YOU try to oversee
Your existence's moral ground
That YOU thought , YOU had found
And YOU can picture perfectly
How your future was meant to be
But YOU wonder how
All your ideals are so far away now
And what can YOU do ?
Is it YOU against YOU ?
Are YOU fighting against your defeat ?
Is it always the " same enemy " to beat ?
Life is not a big party for ALL
For some , luck may never call
But always try to be at your best
Perhaps even better than the rest
So , it is a new day ,
But .. YOU .. may not know ,
What will come your way ,
---- TODAY ----
eric c - October 2017 - copyright
There are many more people who don't know , what tomorrow may bring.I think of the victims of war ,
the refugees , emigrants on rubber boats , victims of trafficking and so on .
I hope that she will survive ... But after that ...
What outlook on life will she have ... ??
It is all very sad .....
PS - I have posted more poems on here
check my posts if you want to read them
Olga
Unfortunately she is not the first victim and she is not the last...
Olga
Eric sorry for a lot of text but I think you need to know about other forms of violence against Indian women:
"Hundreds of thousands of unwanted baby girls are killed in India every year, either before their birth or shortly afterwards. Last year, research published in British medical journal The Lancet found that 10 million girls had been murdered during the past 20 years.
The result is a chillingly skewed male-female ratio".
"Different Forms of Domestic Violence in India and their Causes.
Domestic Violence Against Women.
This form of domestic violence is most common of all. One of the reasons for it being so prevalent is the orthodox and idiotic mindset of the society that women are physically and emotionally weaker than the males. Though women today have proved themselves in almost every field of life affirming that they are no less than men, the reports of violence against them are much larger in number than against men. The possible reasons are many and are diversified over the length and breadth of the country. According to United Nation Population Fund Report, around two-third of married Indian women are victims of domestic violence and as many as 70 per cent of married women in India between the age of 15 and 49 are victims of beating, rape or forced sex. In India, more than 55 percent of the women suffer from domestic violence, especially in the states of Bihar, U.P., M.P. and other northern states".
The most common causes for women stalking and battering include dissatisfaction with the dowry and exploiting women for more of it, arguing with the partner, refusing to have sex with him, neglecting children, going out of home without telling the partner, not cooking properly or on time, indulging in extra marital affairs, not looking after in-laws etc. In some cases infertility in females also leads to their assault by the family members. The greed for dowry, desire for a male child and alcoholism of the spouse are major factors of domestic violence against women in rural areas. There have been gruesome reports of young bride being burnt alive or subjected to continuous harassment for not bringing home the amount of demanded dowry. Women in India also admit to hitting or beating because of their suspicion about the husband’s sexual involvement with other women. The Tandoor Murder Case of Naina Sahni in New Delhi in the year 1995 is one such dreadful incident of a woman being killed and then burnt in a Tandoor by his husband. This incidence was an outcome of suspicion of extra marital affairs of Naina Sahni which led to marital discord and domestic violence against her.
In urban areas there are many more factors which lead to differences in the beginning and later take the shape of domestic violence. These include – more income of a working woman than her partner, her absence in the house till late night, abusing and neglecting in-laws, being more forward socially etc. Working women are quite often subjected to assaults and coercion sex by employees of the organization. At times, it could be voluntary for a better pay and designation in the office.
Violence against young widows has also been on a rise in India. Most often they are cursed for their husband’s death and are deprived of proper food and clothing. They are not allowed or encouraged for remarriage in most of the homes, especially in rural areas. There have been cases of molestation and rape attempts of women by other family members in nuclear families or someone in the neighbourhood. At times, women are even sexually coerced by their partner themselves against their will. They are brutally beaten and tortured for not conceiving a male child. Incidents like, ripping off a woman’s womb for killing the female foetus when she disagrees for abortion have also come to light especially in rural areas. Female foeticide and female infanticide continue to be a rising concern.
Also as expressed by Rebecca J. Burns in the following lines, “When I am asked why a woman doesn’t leave abuser I say: Women stay because the fear of leaving is greater than the fear of staying. They will leave when the fear of staying is greater than the fear of leaving.” A common Indian house wife has a tendency to bear the harassment she is subjected to by her husband and the family. One reason could be to prevent the children from undergoing the hardships if she separates from the spouse. Also the traditional and orthodox mindset makes them bear the sufferings without any protest.
Other forms of physical abuse against women include slapping, punching, grabbing, burdening them with drudgery, public humiliation and the neglect of their health problems. Some of the other forms of psychological torment against them could be curtailment of their rights to self-expression and curbing the freedom to associate with the natal family and friends".
Yes , you are right about that.But it was rather cruel what has happened to her.
First they rape her.And when they must go on trial to take responsibility for their deeds , they simply kill her.
It is just shocking ...
She never asked for this.I am aware that our life will end one day ...
But to have it ended in such a way ... (very tragic)
She is not the last maybe - but should we not feel sad about it ??
Have we all become immune for (all) this violence ...
Yes , I understand your point ...
But I am referring to all types of violence ...
Killing people for no reason is just outrages .
And it is the same when you want to kill the witness so you may get away with your crime(s)
I know that there are different types of violence.Mostly against women from all cultures and /or backgrounds.
Maybe it has grown in a sort of tradition (or it is part of their religion) but does that make it right ... ???
I also feel sorry for all the Vietnamese victims who died in the trailer in England.
But at least they had a choice - to get in or not ...
These young women never had the chance to choose ...
Olga
Of course we should care. But you see how many people here in your post. It´s too far for most of them.
Mb
I'm always suspicious with denunciation of what happens in the neigbour garden . It's generally a cognitive bias to ignore what (relatively) does not work at home. So here in Netherland women are not killed of course, but the only work market they are able to reach is the public service one.and.the retail selling shop. Women in North countries ( NL, DE, SE) are limited to "personnal" services and retail.( of course in very north countries they have been.given a true access to the political scope, but not.more to the economical one, which.seems to.count more ). . In France, Italia and Spain women have more choices , in East they have even more choices (thanks to the communisn history but the competition is far harder ). Let's cleanup our houses before considering the far ones.
In part I agree with you.In my country it is common practice to punish everyone who has committed a crime.Male or female.
It doesn't matter if the victim is a male or female.And as of now , the punishment for many major crimes has gone up.
So , we are fighting crime and try to stop brutal robberies or killings.
And I fully agree with the fierce and quick punishments and trials that will now be the standard here.
Maybe you missed it but here we now have more women in top jobs and in the government and political parties.
This has been going on for several years now.
Our government wants to have 30% of all (top) jobs to be filled in by women.It is the same for jobs in the government and in the political parties.
As for the poem.I was trying to reflect the grieve and the pain that the victims and the family of certain crimes have to go through.
And in some posts I was talking about my own personal vieuw on violence (in general) and the way it makes me feel.
And I was thinking about the victims.
I was not talking politics or about a country's system for crime cases.
Like I said I am against all types of violence ...
Yes , I understand that there is much real tv today ...
You get to see what happens all over the world in a minute or 2 ...
We got used to reality tv - we got used to news that is just some minutes old.
And also too much of images of war , asassination , fatal robberies , gang wars etc.
It was not my intention to start a big discussion here.I was just talking about how I feel (felt) about situations where there is a lot of cruelty and violence.
I don't feel fine when I see or hear about victims of a crime.
This also has to do with the fact that I went to Bible school every Saturday from my 8 ~ 15 year.
So , I try to live by the 10 Commendments that all Catholic people know ...
Tasha
Maybe people don't want to think about what might happen tomorrow.Or what could happen to any of us.I'm scared to think about it, too.I'm sure nothing will happen to me.I've been overreacting 1,000 times.But I know that no one is immune from anything.People try to avoid such topics.It is easier to talk about nature or art, about something neutral...
Экономическая нестабильность, угрозы мести, расправы от насильника, осуждение общества — все это крючки, заставляющие жертв насилия молчать. Из-за этого статистика, особенно местная, чудовищно искажается. Может оказаться так, что в отдельно взятой стране, особенно где женщины находятся в более подчиненном положении, статистика ниже, чем в другой стране, просто потому, что в первой стране женщины боятся говорить о том, что с ними произошло....
Женщинам страшно рассказать о насилии.Вопросы о том как вы были одеты,пили алкоголь,даже просто флиртовали - могут быть расценены как "призыв к насилию",провокация.
Хорошо,что полуголым пьяным мужчинам бояться нечего.
Сегодня только женщина расплачивается за все....
Mb
By the ways i'm using both the staticals figures of my ( old and past) studeht academical life ( i used to work on that more or less near topic ) and my adult traveller experience. I'm aware of the inertia of social and anthropoligical basis, but i also know that in Germany , Netherland and all "North" countries, there is a lot more shops , far lot more, selling "home" and conforts products than in "South" countries. There is also the so called "North" design and the more famous "ikea". All that world is a world where women are expected to take care of the very private "home" confort. Which is very counter intuitive if we consider the tradirionnal "cliché" where "South" us seen as "macho" countries whereas "North" is seen as women ... women what ? I think its the usual post world war II "sexually liberated" not really "socially " liberated . By the way "East" paradigm is completely.new , no extrapolation is available.
Mb
Things may be counter intuitives. That is societies where women are explicitely and formally confined have to protect their women and provide them with "things" societies where women are more free and in competition with men are expected to help herself without any social organisation to protect or feed them . We are just reluctant to the difference and see the negative exceptionnal and spectacular exception confirming our already biases and world view.
Tasha
No, no, and again, no.These are facts.This is no exception to the rule.Women are often abused and cannot achieve anything.Men as always are more stable and they have good lawyers.There is no "equality"in this matter.I'm sorry, but it's true.
Mb
I'm exactly saying that there is no true "equality in that matters. "Advanced" societies in the path of the disrupting and violent "modernity" ( the term have an exact meaning more subtile than the one de use in our day by day langage) are factually more violent with women than the old societies ( it's counter intuitive as we are chocked by exceptionnals disfunctionning of thèse societies not seen in pur disfunctionnals societies aT that level ).
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