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Doug, 67 y.o.

United States

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Back to big age differences

Some time ago, Helga posted the subject of couples with large age differences. At the time, I listened to the discussion with reservations. Many claim older men and younger women may mix for a while, but no long-term good can come from these matches; that is until a neighbor comes home with some striking young beauty half his age, who seems crazy in love and oblivious to age. When money is involved, this is dismissed as superficial and financially motivated, but that theory becomes problematic there is no money and the interest appears honest and genuine. Then what!?



Many western men have deluded themselves into believing Slavic women will marry the village idiot, regardless of age, just to have some sort of man and move to the west. I find that insulting. Perhaps that is why he is the village idiot! Here in the US, I have seen many beautiful Slavic girls who married far beneath themselves. Some were very happy; others developed a chronic eye-rolling condition.

Older men enjoy receiving attention from some entrancing young babe. I do not think young girls typically have a sincere desire to spend their lives with someone old enough to be their father; however, the other day I discovered a blog discussion on this very subject. Surprisingly, I read over 11 pages written by sincere people who had wonderful marriages with age differences of 25-30 years. Honestly, I was quite surprised. Successful relationships with wide age differences must be possible, but are they practical?

I must ask, if a man truly loves a young woman, can he embrace her knowing he may only be able to give her 20 or so good years, before becoming a burden on her? If true love wishes the best for the other, would he not exercise wisdom, make a difficult decision, cause her short term grief to spare her possible long-term regrets? Should he not love her more than his own desires, and do the best for her?

Older men who fall in love with younger women must consider much. Even if she is very open with her feelings, sometimes difficult for a man to believe he could actually be the object of her desire and love; however, these things are not impossible. All relationships have problems; all demand much work and self-sacrifice, regardless of differences. With large age gaps, perhaps it takes more to convince an older man that love is possible. Perhaps the less conventional the circumstances, maybe the harder to understand, but certainly any genuine love is good love. What do you ladies think?

PS: Often you women think we men are a bit “juvenile”; I can only smile, but I admit nothing! But I have talked here with women, much younger than me, and told them maybe she would think I am too young for her!  ))))) (Next week we will discuss GLOBAL WARMING)

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Irina

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Так боже упаси тебя переживать. Я уже говорила что если мы его уже в конце концов женим, то и у нас может лед тронется))) А то что то мы тут уже засиделись в невестах))) А на свадьбе у кого нибудь я никогда не против погулять))) Люблю это дело)))


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Irina

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Так мы уже так давно ждем кого же он в конце концов нам представит... А он все упирается похоже или очень разборчивый...)))

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Doug, 67 y.o.

United States

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I must go away for a few days; this is my first holiday in 5 or 6 years. Will be in the north woods of Maine, relaxing by quiet lake. Wanted everyone to know that just because I do not post, does not mean that Tom bought me a pizza with lots of mushrooms!!!  ))))

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