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Andy

Ladies..why do you hide that you actually have children?

Lately I have seen many profiles that say they have kids but also many many more that say they do not or leave it blank. This is LESS THAN HONEST and gives the impression that you don't have any children. Men that don't want kids see this and contact or try to begin contact and then all trust goes away. It seems the more kids they have the more they hide it. Or..an example is that a woman she 26 to 34 often days she has no kids ir leaves it empty only later to reveal after an email or 2 that she does have a child or 2 or 3.  Its dishonest..pure and simple. I AM PROUD TO BE A FATHER AND I FIND IT DISGRACEFUL TO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YOU HAVE A CHILD FOR THE PURPOSE OF TRYING TO HOOK A MAN or TRICK him...BECAUSE some of us don't care about kids or not then we just go on like the lie never happened to preserve the relationship. Why do you lie ladies? Be real..be honest. Real men find honesty sexy and kids...well it eases our worry that you might want more.  The real purpose is that you have the misconception that men don't want a woman with a child. Trust me...You are wrong. We do for the most part want kids.  Don't lie about your age, or if you have children, or about those giant fake lips on your face.  This site used to have real people with a common goal. Now...look at the fake profiles and the fake answers..and all of this is for gifts and trips and to deceive is into falling in love FIRST..so that later you can say.."if You love me you'll love my kids!"  YOU ARE JUST OUTRIGHT LYING and I think the site should punish these women for LYING on the questionnaire.  Tell the truth. Its sexy. And for gods sale...stop poking out your already fake and enhanced lips. I swear it to you...MEN DON'T LIKE THE FAKE LIPS ...

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Natalya


Andy, gives the impression that you have a phobia. I'm talking about the enlarged lips. You do not get tired of repeating it in each of his last posts. If you do not like these women, you just go around the side of their profiles. You just adequately, and silently pass by, like a real man. You are indignant that many young ladies do not indicate the number of children in their profiles. Of course, this is not good, and it's a lie. But I also often found in the process of communicating men who indicate their age at 10 years younger than actual age, and put their old photo of a younger age. . men also write that they were never married. And in fact it turns out that they had a serious relationship. men also do not always indicate the correct number of children in their profiles. But I did not create a disturbance positions and urge the administration site punish these deceivers. Such things are easily detected in the process of personal correspondence. And you can easily opt out of communication with the users and easy to search further. Search worthy and pleasant companions, whom you can trust. Everyone is looking for something that fits his idea of ​​a decent partner for marriage. No universal recipe for happiness. And people can not be both attractive to the whole world! I sincerely wish you all good luck!


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Andy

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Ahhh...here is someone that wants to analyse me. Please don't try. I was trained to resist this analysis. This post is not about me or my thoughts..it's about people that lie about having children. It is typical of a Russian to point out another persons flaws before admitting their own. I did not open the discussion for a serial poster to post about a topic that means nothing to me. I look my age. My son is 12 and my pics reflect friends of comparable age. You seem to be making the excuse that one lie makes the others OK. No...they are all wrong and misleading. Why do you justify these women that lie by pointing out that some men here lie. So we are clear...I don't lie here. All anyone reads about me is true and it would be great if you leave the discussion to what I posted about and not your own agenda. There is a place for you to open the discussion here on this site where we can talk about these things. You can't and won't convince me that your reasons justify these ladies lying. Be honest...be serious. Does someone saying they don't have kids have anything to do with a man or woman's age? No. I placed that part about lips at the beginning because I am expecting someone to see it and give me another excuse about how they are real. Please...start your own thread of questions. This one is for people to share about the things in MY POST.


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Natalya

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Your post is open to all opinions. This rule of the forum. Moderator approved my opinion. And it has a right to exist.


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Olga

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It is ridiculous that lie only Russian on such sites. I remember an Italian musician from Austria, just did not have children in the questionnaire. And they turned out he already 11 (!!!) his family and 8 other children his ex-wife from a previous marriage
I talked a long time with the famous German sculptor, who has lowered the age by as much as 18 (!!!) years. While information about it on the Internet was Nemerow, and he worked even at Picasso.
French men are constantly reduce itself to 10 --15 years .This norm for them . Arab and Turkish men I do not even mention


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Natalya


Здравствуйте Энди.Вы подняли очень интересную тему о детях,которых скрывают.Всё меньше остаётся мужчин которые хотят взять женщину замуж с ребёнком от первого брака.Я попытаюсь обьяснить логику русских женщин.Женщина думает,что в начале нужно скрыть от мужчины что у неё есть ребёнок,общаться с ним и переписываться,а когда он уже окончательно в неё влюбиться,открыть ему секрет и он уже не сможет порвать с ней отношения,так как влюбился.Вот такая логика,что и есть глупый обман.

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Nadezhda


Dear Andy.

Perhaps you are in your post mean younger women. But I decided to write because I am a mother of a teenager, which is 16 years. First, I absolutely do not interested in silicone lips, or silicone breast. As they say,  God is not offended me.  So I for natural beauty. If some women have silicone, it is their right and their problems. They say, some men even like silicone.  

Second, I also do not understand women who cheat men if  they have children. Furthermore, to me as a mother, it is difficult to understand a woman who is for the sake of a foreign man, not only lying about their children, but even leave them in his homeland. And she goes to the man.

I also put it mildly, do not understand women and men who hide their true age and posted on the site  photos of 10-year-old.But most of all I was outraged when men for many years, "Looking for soulmate." But in fact, he is not going to change anything in his life. So he just raises their self-esteem and fun to life was not monotonous.

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Finally, as a mother and as a woman who  nothing to hide in a profile, I want to say the following. I do not communicate with men of your age and men over 60 years old. I'm looking for a man my age. When a man writes to me the first letter, I'm in my first answer to him writing that I do not just have two children. But my youngest child is living with me. And he will live with me, yet become independent.

Guess, what kind of reaction on half of men after? Some men write that they have only one bedroom.  Some go in English. I mean without explanation.  I become  for  them not so attractive, smart and sexy.   And you say that all men are not against  children of woman.

But I am a mature woman and quietly perceive it. Because I understand, these men do not need me. A real man, if he loves. and he will take my children. And even think how to help my mother, who will remain here,  if I leave.

And more young women find it difficult to accept the fact that some men have only one bedroom. So they hide their children. Although I do not understand their naivety which borders with stupidity. Because the foolish hope that is possible make a man love a woman to such an extent,  that he will accept unconditionally and her children over time. And even the man will respect her more, because she hide before time their children.

I do not know, maybe there is such a skillful of women. But while there are cases,  even a sophisticated woman  without children ,  man no hurry to take in wife for years.

In short, a white lie, does not work here.But to call for honesty, both sides here meaningless.


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Natalia

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Наталия, а чего Вы нападаете на человека??? Он высказал свое мнение, не нужно быть агрессивными.
Он спросил, написал свое мнение, Вы же не такая, как он описал, почему Вы сразу все стрелки на мужчин перевели опять. Если он пишет, значит, действительно здесь много именно таких женщин.
Мне мой мужчина тоже кое-что рассказывал о женщинах с этого сайта, которые писали ему, но я просто не хочу озвучивать.


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Natalia

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Да, Наталья, так делают именно глупые женщины. Или такие женщины держат мужчи за дураков, но надеюсь, что таких, здесь нет. 

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Liudmila, 52 y.o.

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Такие себе Люси "Ребенка любит, без меня жизни не представляет".

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Liudmila, 52 y.o.

Germany

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И не озвучивайте. А то тут же услышите, что Ваш мужчина непорядочный и вообще полный гад, посмел обсуждать с Вами других женщин  .


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Natalia

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)))))))))))  


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Natalya

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I expressed my opinion is elementary. I did not attack the man. I'm not offended his feelings. Each member of this forum have the right to their opinion. Otherwise it would not be a forum, and singing praises in someone's address.


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Tatyana


Это уже похоже на пиар компанию. 
Andy, а чем вы довольны? Вам хоть что-то нравится?
Наверное срочно нужен фильтр "силиконовые губы" 


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Nadezhda


Мужчина написал о наболевшем. Но врушки с губами промолчат. И все другие врунишки оправдываться не станут. Так что пожелаем ему , сил и терпения найти жемчужину в стоге сена )))
На мой взгляд , он очень мудро поступил , что написал этот пост , вышел напрямую к цели.


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Lyubov


Andy,
Я уверена, что не все женщины на сайте скрывают своих детей.
И вы имеете возможность выбирать среди тех, кто не скрывает.
Или все-таки вы ищете женщину без детей?
Если вам не нравятся силиконовые губы - не выбирайте женщину с силиконовыми губами   


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Andy

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Ok. AGAIN AS I SAID....I ASKED ABOUT WOMEN THAT DECEIVE ABOUT HAVING KIDS OR BEING MARRIED. YES BOTH ARE HERE. I ASK FROM MY POINT OF VIEW...AN HONEST MANS POINT OF VIEW. FOR ARGUMENTS SALE FEEL FREE TO TALK ABOUT YOUR OWN EXAMPLE BUT IF YOU READ. I ASKED FOR WOMEN'S OPINIONS AND MEN TO LEAVE ANY EXAMPLES THEY HAD. No doubt people lie here but what you see is what you get with me. That's why I give me Skype and Viber and Skype almost immediately TO ERASE DOUBT and build trust IMMEDIATELY. For those ladies that have been lied to...surely You pushed it ASKED to see his life or family or his flat..maybe You should call or text when He doesn't expect it. I do that and I can almost always tell what is being hidden.  I thank you for your opinion but I ask WHY it happens. I want to understand the reasons for it..not that it happened. Maybe they are hopeful for better or as we say "they think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence!"  So..please share why you think it happens or why you do it..both men and women. IT'S A LIE PLAIN AND SIMPLE AND IT'S A DEAL BREAKER FOR ME 


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Andy

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Thank you so much for explaining this to me. I see what you mean. And I thank you for understanding my question. It was not to pick on women..it was to pick on those that lie.  I love kids. I once fell deeply in love with a woman here with 2 small children. God really made the two of us to be together but her alcoholic ex husband refused to let the kids travel to move to the USA. He is a deadbeat..never paid to suppprt them but was such a pig to say he owned them all. I tried everything. Offered LARGE LARGE AMOUNTS of cash. I mean like $10k plus and invitations to the USA and even trying to make it so he could stay hare. Still he refused. Nothing worked. I have a 12 year old son that was 9 then. I couldn't move because of work and we tried to keep it alive. In the end we decided to give up for now(2 years ago) and hope for later but that we would both support each other if we found another. She did and he is a good man from Denmark and sees them ALMOST 3/4 of the year. We talk..I wish them well. Now here I am. Alone and looking for a woman with or without a child. I seek a family based on trust and when the most basic stuff is a lie then trust is fine forever. Thx for sharing your opinion. Really..I kinda get it now.


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Andy

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Thx for your input. You look great by the way.


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Andy

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Thx for you understanding my point. I JUST wanted to hear the opinion of an honest woman.


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Andy

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Ahhh...here You are my dear Tatyana, I Waited for you to chime in with your glorious opinion. I think you miss the point. That is...these are my opinions and I am just testing the water's to see if others have the same experience or have seen such.


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Andy

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Thx for seeing my point Nadya. I simply posted that to test the water's and see if just I notice these things or if anyone that has left the "children" part of the questionnaire empty. I think it's a sin to deny having a child. Again that's just my opinion but if that is not wrong then nothing is. Its shady and sneaky and deceitful and has one purpose..to hook a man then tell him later to trick him. That type of woman will lie about everything..from her shoe size and even money.


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Andy

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Again you missed the point. Its an observation about lips..THAT'S ALL. As far as women go..I just in the last week met 2. No kids on their profile...3 days later...3 kids. That IS AM OUTRIGHT LIE AND IT'S DECEITFUL. PERIOD.  Why make excuses for ladies like that.


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Tatyana

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Thx Andy for the using of dear. I hope my opinion caused you just smile. I promise to miss my point next time. 


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Olga

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Andy, do you want me to tell you on philosophical topics? Why lie is in the world? Or why it is so much on the Internet?
Probably because people want to be loved in the first place .
But they think that if they are honest, they will be less likely to do so.
But this is not the worst problem in the Internet. There are a lot of crooks, both men and women. And a lot of all sorts of sick people and maniacs.
So of course you need to be careful .. I wish you good luck in your search. You have a very handsome son. 

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Natalia, 51 y.o.

Belarus

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А какого возраста дети? Возможно они живут отдельно, совершеннолетние? Тогда женщина не пишет о них, потому что они не будут переезжать с ней в другую страну.
Вы спросили о причине молчания?


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Andy

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Hi

I thank you deeply for your compliment. I actually just got a message from a lady that I caught lying on her questionnaire and her answer was to blame me. It was full of "I would never do that" and an excuse about not understanding the questions. My answer is...99% of the rest of the women answer and understand correctly. She was not upset 71st me for any other reason than that I caught her lies. That is sad...blaming me for her lies 

 

Yes we want to be loved but to be loved as we are..and with what we have..not the past version of who we are.

 

Thx again

Andy


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Andy

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Sorry. That is a good attempt to give the woman a good excuse but they are 3 and 4 years old. She lied plain and simple  Here is the message she gave me after I wrote to her that she lied. I didn't stalk her or bother to write other than once and that was after I caught her lie.  She made is seem as if I have done something wrong to her by catching her. Funny


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Nadya


Probably some people consider enhanced lips as a beautiful feature.

As well as a lot of American women consider tattoos all over their bodies as an enhancement of their natural charisma. 

Andy, do like tattoos?

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Nadya


>> I swear it to you...MEN DON'T LIKE THE FAKE LIPS ...

 

Yes, I can tell, from watching American TV, Here is some my favorite broadcasters, those women have never done anything to their faces. All natural.

Maybe little bit of nose job on the first picture.

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Andy

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Hi

I have one. I got it after I was awarded my black belt in martial arts. Sorry but is not the most central part of my face...my lips.

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