What is Success?
*At the age of 4 years ...* *Success is.....*
That you do not urinate in your pants,
*At the age of 8 years ...* *Success is.....*
To know the way back home.
*At the age of 12 years,* *success is........*
To have friends.
*At the age of 18 years,* *success is.......*
To get a driver's license.
*At the age of 23 years,* *success is.......*
To graduate from a university.
*At the age of 25 years,* *success is........*
To get a job
*At the age of 30 years,* *success is........*
To be a family Man.
*At the age of 35 years,* *success is........*
To make money.
*At the age of 45 years,* *success is.......*
To maintain the appearance of a young man.
*At the age of 50 years,* *success is.......*
To provide good education for your children.
*At the age of 55 years,* *success is...*
To still be able to perform your duties well.
*At the age of 60 years,* *success......*
To still be able to keep driving license
*At the age of 65 years,* *success is.......*
To live without disease.
*At the age of 70 years,* *success is........*
not to be a burden on any one.
*At the age of 75 years,* *success is........*
To have old friends.
*At the age of 80 years,* *success is.......*
To know the way back home.
*At the age of 85 years,* *success is.......*
That not to urinate in your pants again.
One of the best messages I have ever read.
Life is a Cycle!!!!
It was one seemingly ordinary day when I decided to QUIT… All of a sudden I made a decision to quit my job, my relationship and finally my spirituality. I just wanted to quit my life.
But before that, I went to the wood to have one last talk with God.
I started: “God, can you give me one good reason not to quit?”
His answer really surprised me: “Look around”, He said. “Do you see the fern and the bamboo?”
I replied: “Yes. When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth.
Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful.
But still, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
He said: “In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would not quit.”
“Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth.
Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant…But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall.
It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle.”
After that, He asked me: “Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots. I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you.”
“Don’t compare yourself to others.” He added. ”The bamboo had a different Purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful.” God said to me: “Your time will come”
“You will rise high”.
I asked: “How high should I rise?”
“How high will the bamboo rise?” He also asked.
I was confused: “As high as it can?”
”Yes.” He said, “Give Me glory by rising as high as you can.”
After this conversation I left the forest and I wrote this amazing story. I really hope that these words can help you to see that God will never give up on you.
You should Never, Never, Never, Give up.
Don’t tell the Lord how big the problem is, tell the problem how great the Lord is!
Life is not about doing 20 things lousily but about doing those 3-4 things very well; as the remaining 16-17 things are usually nothing but JUNK attractions. In fact a lot of stuff around is JUNK. The trick is to simplify & progressively reduce your JUNK consumption & eventually become so discerning that you begin to ‘Bunk the Junk’. Only then will your thoughts gradually become practical & objective instead of irrational, dramatic & subjective. It will be then that the REAL growth will come (Personally experienced).
Why is it that a lot of people achieve so much in their lives while the rest remain onlookers?
I believe the reasons are 1. Top achievers TRAVEL LIGHT!
They don’t focus their energies on over-emotional issues or hold grudges against people. Most of us get upset or over-react when the things don’t turn out the way we have planned.
Accept that people are different and have a right to disagree with you!
2. Top achievers don’t hold PEOPLE CRUTCHES.
Most of us waste our time on pleasing people. We get upset when somebody holds a bad opinion of us.
Remember, Opinions are transient and do not matter in the long run.
So, kick the drama and upgrade your life!
One life! Rise and Shine!
Someone once said “If you want something very, very badly, let it go free. If it comes back to you, it's yours forever. If it doesn't, it was never yours to begin with.”
Someone once said “If you want something very, very badly, let it go free. If it comes back to you, it's yours forever. If it doesn't, it was never yours to begin with.”
The female brain
Hey fellows, did you have read the book about the female brain?
If not, pity....
If yes, congratulations.
I did it and I understood many REAL facts (even my dear and beloved daughter and explained what she feels and senses).
Women, the most delicate and really amazing gift that god / nature give to us....
Treat them as they really deserves...
Andy, 42 y.o.
United States, Kitty Hawk
Agency gives PC to ladies to chat and send letters..not this site but beware MOST!
So I joined another site as a test and right away got the whole "chat with me" invitations at $3 a minute. Then the letters are $3 and the agency of course had a guarantee. I am a smart guy so I looked on VK....found two of the 5 ladies and found they had not written to me at all. In fact they said the agency had done it. It was ANOTHER site...not this one but it highlights the way these agencies work. Only NOW thse lasies suddenly wanted to chat and be honest and have free contact on VK. ..except they both soon got around to $$$. AS IF...because they faked honesty That suddenly I became a fool. Unreal. For every 1 good woman here there are 5 that want cash only. .and I noticed that the women that takes tons of selfies CRAVES MALE ATTENTION. ...NOT THE KIND OF WOMAN TO MARRY. ANYONE ELSE?
Gabriel, 44 y.o.
Mexico, Mexico City
Why a Russian woman want to get married with a foreigner, I mean a Latino man?
I have read some information about this topic before. But I would like to know some more information, mainly because it is necessary to know more about a different culture than mine, since I'm a Latin and I am very interested about Russian culture, but not only from the official perspective but from the people who lives its culture every day.
Thank you in advance.
Teoría de Juegos en las Relaciones por Internet
Habiendo reflexionado en las relaciones virtuales, he observado que el éxito ó fracaso de estas relaciones tienen que ver con las leyes de oferta y demanda, que existe en nuestro entorno tanto en la selección natural ( búsqueda de parejas, reproducción) como en los negocios.
Observo que los perfiles deben ofertar las características de quien se promociona bajo los siguientes conceptos:
Imagen ( entre más atractivo físicamente, tiene un alto valor de atracción)
Personalidad, que puede ser unas cuantas lineas descriptivas ó una completa descripción de la persona que se promociona.
Gustos Personales, con los hobbys y entretenimientos que nos interesan y disfrutamos.
Lo que nos atrae en la persona idónea, sus características raciales, edad, educación, finanzas.
Nuestros anhelos de crecimiento personal como en pareja.`
El cómo visualizamos a nosotros mismos y como nos ven las personas que nos rodean.
Entonces, el juego consiste en encontrar una sintoniza entre nuestros ideales y nuestras realidades, con los posibles participantes en el juego.
Deben existir o acordarse reglas para no sentir una pérdida de tiempo y esfuerzo,
Suerte a todos y espero que sea esta reflexión de utilidad...
Sean, 27 y.o.
Introducing Your's truly
Warm greetings, Gentlemen, and also the ladies in this subtopic.
I want to take the opportunity to mingle here a little bit. I would start my introducing myself, and then ask a few questions.
[Warning : long post- you might get bored and bitter while reading this. So if you feel that I have been talking too much, or any negative emotion (towards me), I am sorry for your experience. I still wish to present myself in a clear way, Gentleman to Gentleman. Should this offend anyone, then please, you are probably interpreting this in a wrong way.]
I am a male of the Human species, 26 year old, almost 27 in a few days. I am ethnically Indian, but I grew up in England and India, and I studied, live and work in Germany.
The reason I am here
I am opening a can of worms here.
=> First a little bit of how I got here. During my studies, I decided to learn the Russian language at least for reading, so that I could read mathematical monographs from Russia. At that time, I noticed that Russian life's outlook is slightly different than the western one. That raised my curiosity.
Later, I have my own company now, and the second owner of the company is from Croatia. We operate business in various countries in Europe, including Ukraine. So I was able to experience the Slavic culture first hand, albeit for a very short time. I am aware, that the Ukrainian culture probably does not represent the entire spectrum of Slavic culture, but it's been a good experience.
This is why I got interested in Russian / Slavic people, finally leading me here.
=> the reasons I'm not charmed in Germany : (Disclaimer : this section is my own *personal* experience, and does not represent Germany as a whole) You see, so far, I have had been the designated Nerd. Some ladies who knew me even affectionately gave me the nickname "Sheldon" from Big Bang Theory - others who didn't know me, gave me the name "Rajesh" . As the designated nerd, I was never reciprocated, in fact scolded on my advances. Fast forward a few years, and now I have my own Company, multinational B2B business, money and status. And lo - all the ladies, who so far were never interested in me, suddenly are dying to see me.
I am not charmed.
I do not plan to play the role of a provider to a woman who so far didn't care. I am aware, that the elderly generation will eat me alive for saying this. But regardless of the mother or the grandmother advising the woman to settle down with a provider, and the man to strive to become a provider - I am still not charmed. I first want to be loved, for my mind, my brain, my body, and my way of life. Then I can bring in the bank and birth in it.
Besides that, as an Indian immigrant, romantic life in Germany is crappy. Either people think you are a software nerd (I am not. I am a aerospace nerd ) or you are a rapist or you are a terrorist.
Even funnier is that the men accept me as the leader of a group, but women start shouting "We don't need a leader, we definitely don't need a male leader, and even if we do, we don't need an immigrant male leader". This really happened.
As for being a rapist, I, well, don't wanna make a comment.
As for being a terrorist : I fell in love with an Italian, she was okey with me, then suddenly she **suddenly remembered** (ähm, ahem, ahem) that she was married to a Pakistani who was using her to stay in Europe to avoid terrorist charges in his country.
Yes, all these reactions are pretty entertaining to me, but this is not sustainable in a relationship.
=> Reasons I am not signing up for an Indian dating site : Chicks of India that I came across so far are too conservative, and by that I mean in terms of outlook to life, and ability to take risks in life. I am a scientist and a businessman - so certain amount of risk taking and dealing with resulting hardship is part of my life. But Indian and west European chicks alike don't appreciate this. Not to mention that you have to deal with their elders, and their expectations .... I am not interested in marrying the closed minded family of a less, but closed minded chick.
So, so far I'm pretty dry.
What I am looking for here :
Long term relationship, that can withstand the stresses arising from my kind of work. By that I don't mean that I am going to put the woman aside, and ignore her for my work. I want a woman to stick to me and travel with me all around the world. However working and travelling all around the world means sometimes it will be less than a 7 star vacation, and that will create considerable physical and mental stress (trust me).
I want to have a long term relationship with a woman who isn't just looking for a provider, or isn't agreeing to settle down for me 'cause she's an adult now and "have different demands", who doesn't disqualify me as a romantic partner just because of my nerdiness, and isn't interested in me "because so far she's been interested in other kind of men and now experience taught her to like people like me" - no thanks, not charmed.
I am looking for a woman who is in the same wavelength with me, in terms of that she's hungry for passion as much as I am. Someone who didn't waste her youth lurking around in the shadows, but hopefully achieved something in life, so that the upcoming midlife crisis will not be an issue for her.
I want a woman who realizes life is short, so there should be a lot of romance, and memories worth making.
That is pretty much all what I care. Religion, hair color, etc irrelevant.
If that is possible, then down the road, marriage and children are thinkable.
Now, shipmates, here's my question to you :
* What is your experience on this site so far? Is this a site where it is possible to meet a diverse array of ladies to find out who resonates with me? Or is this a site full of people who wishes to get married to a rich provider?
* Does anyone know, how do I search for the lady's preference(s)? Not mine, but hers? That is, is there a way, to search for ladies whose desired age matches mine, desired "ethnicity" matches mine, and filter the rest? Or do I have to check them one by one?
Besides that, I thank you for reading this and have a nice weekend Madams and Sirs !
Find the way to live in Russia
Hello! In my last trip to Moscow and saint Petersburg with my very dear friend and business partner, I had the question why not me live in Russia.
After some reflexions and the touring of saint Petersburg city, I found a way to do it.
Me get into the university polytechnic of Saint Petersburg with Russian language, master degree and even PhD on Computer automation.
I have been two times at Russia and people are great with me, even I run sociological test at both cities and I choose Saint Petersburg to live for at least 5/8 years.
The question is about to find a property to buy and live there.
Is it possible for me as a foreigner student?
Pete, 46 y.o.
United States, Indianapolis
I'm amazed by some men.....
So I was reading the "Did you know" section on the main page and I found this little nugget:
"Women have different desires than men. They want courting, conversation, gentle touching and only when they are aroused are they ready to go further. According to statistics, approximately 50% of women do not like to view men's private parts when they are not aroused. That's why the first 'introductory' letters with photos of men's private parts very often offend them. These are the worst introductory letters."
It totally stuns me that some guys would actually send a woman they don't know a picture of their junk as a means of introduction. Even if they have an impressive member, how can they think that this will get a good response? Could it be that western women are more open to this and it actually works with them?
David, 41 y.o.
Me gustaría saber como vencen la barrera del idioma los hombres que no hablan en ruso con mujeres que solo hablan ruso.
Me apoyo en el traductor pero no siempre traduce correctamente y esto me desespera.
¿Creen ustedes que se puede tener éxito sin ruso o ingles?
Thorsten, 42 y.o.
Wie geht es richtig ...
Ich denke wir sind alle erwachsen und wissen was wir wollen.
Jeder sollte merken wenn er mit einem Fake schreibt,
was eine kranke Mutter, Oma hat und nur Geld zum Leben möchte.
Nach einem Tag, sagt ich liebe Dich, Geld für den Reisepass, das Visum, den Flug und alles andere braucht.
Die nehmen Dich als Goldesel ..., Fake.
Dann noch das doppelte wie es über Deinen Freund Google, in Wirklichheit kostet!
Es ist in Wirklichkeit sehr einfach wenn man auf dieser Internetseite eine Frau sucht.
Registrieren 2 Wochen einfach nur guken.
1 Monat einen Acount kaufen und schreiben und schreibe,
die Frauen, die einem gefallen anschreiben.
Dann E Mail benutzen um keine weiteren Kosten zu haben.
Dann schnell auf Skype und Webcam wechseln ... möglichst täglich um viel vom Tagesablauf zu erfahren.
Wer WhatsApp hat das zu Shype benutzen, baut vertrauen auf, man erfährt viel mehr.
Man sollte selber immer ehrlich sein, das wollen was man sagt oder schreibt.
Denkt alle drüber nach, verhaltet euch bitte so.
Das macht es für alle viel einfacher!
Mein bester Freund hat mir das genau so erzählt und das klappt.
Der ist seit langem über diese Seite mit einer Ukrainerin glücklich verheiratet.
Do you Believe in Friend Ship Between a Woman and a Man ??
Interesting question a great person asked me today.
Good question to post it.
I have had a great friend lady when I was 26, she was 12 years older than me, we used to visit us at both houses and my parents really appreciate her a lot, as well as her parents appreciate me also.
She liked me very much and I liked her also.
At the end everyone married with other persons and then LOST connection.
But we where a great friend team in those days; always talked of everything, she looked as a very attractive woman.
We set up friendship since the beginning.
It remember me the Movie When Harry Meets Sally. - She looked as the female character, very beautiful -.
So the Question is ¿Do you believe in REAL friendship between Woman and Man?
I will cited the Answer / Question I read today from a great lady who asked me:`
Yes, you're right, friendship is the most single treasure which every one should esteem! But there can't be any friendship between man and woman actually ...
unless that in long lasting happy marriage may be. Love, passion and friendship are not the same things ...
It's only my point of view. And I just wonder what you think about this eternal question...
Of course I have not yet mentioned the word LOVE in any of my conversations....
It is something that shall be handled in REAL after well know the person many times....
Yavuz, 40 y.o.
Cesar, 28 y.o.
Mexico, Mexico City
Marcos, 35 y.o.
love and sex
The question of love and sex together is badly formulated in my heart when the woman is a princess. For me love is an entirely separate impulse than sex. If i really love a woman then sexual impulse disappears, it vanishes ! It is strange, but i wouldn’t be able to do sex if the woman is the princess of my dreams. This may last a few days, weeks (maybe months?). Most of times i will not even talk to the women i consider mythological beings. They are fairies, angels, elves, mermaids, goddesses. They can't really exist but if for some reason they do exist, they will not get married with human beings. Except in my dreams. Do somebody have this problem?
7 commands for Slavonic Women
Perhaps gentlemen could know about the 7 commands on Slavonic women, or at least it was the title of an interesting article I found in the internet but now it is broken....`
A Russian woman is, above all, a woman. But cultural differences make them different and that is precisely where most of the problems you find yourselves. I want in this post, explain a few ideas that will help you be more clear situation of your communication
I can read only about the next:
It is a characteristic of the Russian woman where there is a huge difference between normal and his beloved state. What happens in all women, in Russian it becomes even greater, to the point of finding a totally different person when he falls. How difficult is to woo Russia, real and deep woman, but who gets to see what a person will do everything possible for her beloved. You can read you the post of "Decembrists" and you will see how women belonging to the upper class, they followed their men banished to labor camps in Siberia, creating villages around the same locations. They are women prepared for tough and demanding situations that have a concept of loyalty that I have not met other women. However, if the Russian woman is not completely in love, you may maintain a relationship with you but consider the practical side of the cohexistencia. It is easy to fall in love with a Slavic woman, although many of their reactions make us think Westerners, in fact, are in love with us. That's where most of our fall friends, thinking they have already achieved when it is not so. Remember therefore a Russian woman in love, will do anything to be with the person you love, whether you go to a depressed area of India or live in New York. It gives quite the same difficulties and what they have to risk. But, by the same reasoning, be with a woman who is not really in love can cost you serious displeasure at a particular time.
2.- Relations man and woman
Despite the image we all have, the Russian woman, in private, with the man she loves, is more fiery, responsive, passionate, tender and given that even women from other parts of the world. This statement will surprise more than one ... I think the reason is because we have that image for his acting, climate and culture that makes it retracted that our women . It's just that, that coldness that keep the relationship with their environment, which makes for compensation, which are opposite in private
(CLEARLY I DO NOT WANT TO OFFEND WOMEN, I ONLY RETYPE WHAT I HAVE FOUND IN THE INTERNET)
We the men, must have to understand the facts about Slavonic Mindset and cultural difference can not be totally generalized, but we, the men, MUST UNDERSTAND our real reason to be here....
Any Hint????? as to complete this puzzle I like to figure out.... and really understand...... I am very fascinated with it....
CLONE or TWINS?
Question to gentlemen:
Since I started to travel worldwide in my trip from Berlin, Germany to San Diego, USA I found a person at the hotel who was very surprised, almost shocked by me at the time saw me.
I appeared identical to a person from El Salvador.
Only the voice tone was different.
It was October 1988.
Now in my recent trip to Moscow I had again the same experience when a friend I made at the hotel again was surprised as I also appeared and looked to a man from Dubai.
I saw the picture of his friend and the look of this Arab man is IDENTICAL to me.
Everyone at the hotel was silent and then explode in a great hilarious laugh. We did it until our stomach started to ache.
Does somebody have had this experience?
Does women also have had the same experience?
It will be interested to read from similar experiences.!!
Question to men: What Does a man might have to do if have the willing to immigrate and relocate to his fiancee homeland? Irrespective of the lady country.
Of course there are many difficult on immigration process, eligibility to have a job in a new land, language barriers and so.
I just put my mind in a lady mindset in order to think about it.
I want to hear from men, of course ladies comments are welcome.